Married Women Date your Husbands! That’s right dating doesn’t stop when you get married. Now you have the pleasure of dating your life mate. This is the part where maintenance begins! You buy a brand new Rolls Royce, it’s still going to need maintenance eventually, and your marriage is no different. You are now in a state of maintaining your relationship.
So many wives complain that the romance stopped, (i.e. flowers,time alone, dining out), when they got married. Likewise men complained that sex stopped. I know, I know, you have the kids now and things aren’t as easy as they used to be. There are more demands on your time and your sleep deprived. Hear me now, “that’s no excuse”! Throw out your excuses and get to work. I’m not telling you it’s going to be easy. What I will tell you is the truth, and that is that it takes a little extra effort to maintain your marriage over the years.
The first thing you want to do is make date night a priority! Pick a day that’s best for you both agree on it, act on it! I find that sometimes it’s best to pick a night during week to have date night, it breaks up the monotony of the week. You don’t have to wait for the weekend, which more than likely is family time if you have kids. I’m sure I don’t have to tell you, date nights are without the kids. Just the two of you reconnecting! Think of marriage as if it’s a sky scraper building, your marriage is the foundation and the various floors of the building are your kids. A building will not stand if the foundation is not built properly.
Break out of routine in romance! Don’t become predictable. Please don’t always do the same in thing in the same way all the time, it equals boring! For instance, lovemaking is not limited to the bedroom! Instead of going out on date night, send the kids out to their grandparents. Or, to a fun outing for them. Maybe the sitter takes them to an amusement park, or to a movie. However you have to do it, the point is to snag a couple hours of alone time and get creative! Perhaps a blanket on the floor in front of the fireplace with a bottle of wine, (sounds good to me). Sometimes getting away from home is just what the doctor ordered. Get a room! Changing your surroundings can do wonders for a couple.
How long has it been since either of you have taken a vacation from work? (without the kids) Start planning. I understand we have demanding careers, and it can be hard scheduling time off work. If you are able to get away for a week great! But if not short getaways, (a weekend trip) can do the trick also.
When you look your best you feel your best. Keep him attracted to the woman he fell in love with and he will look for ways to spend more time with you. Keep desire in your relationship! Desire equals Passion!!