Social Anxiety Disorder also known as “Social Phobia” is an anxiety disorder characterized by intense fear in one or more social situations causing considerable distress and impairs ability to function in at least some parts of daily life. These fears can be triggered by perceived or actual scrutiny from others. It is the most common psychiatric disorder 12% of American Adults suffer with.
Feelings of not being accepted or liked, unsure of what to say how to act or react to other people loss of confidence, and self control a virtual prison of fear. The truth is there are some people who are simply not worth our time because they are negative. However, you are also missing out on the good people that come into your life to bless you.
Ironically Social Anxiety Disorder spells S.A.D.. Learning to relax in social situations is the key. Once you feel calmer socially, then thoughts like: “what do I say next?” disappear. You learn to go with the flow and allow conversation to take its own natural path, without feeling you have to force it. And that horrible feeling of “all eyes on me” suddenly fades as it starts to feel much less important if others are focusing on you or not.
These 7 social confidence tips will help you feel more relaxed when out with others and allow you to begin your journey from social phobic to the confident person you can really be. Joel 3:10, “Let the weak say I’am Strong.”
- Prepare to relax – The same way you program yourself to worry, you can begin to reverse this by deprogramming yourself. Take the time to think about the upcoming gathering while you are perhaps taking a soak in the tub while your mind and body are in a relaxed state. Picture yourself in that situation looking relaxed and confident. Picture yourself enjoying those around you and the event ending well for you.
- Seek out social situations – Why you ask? Because the more you avoid something the more we delay our growth. Face your fear head on remember fear stands for: False Evidence Appearing Real.
- Focus on your surroundings. A social phobic person focuses inwardly. Start to focus outwardly to lower anxiety. Make mental notes of the color of the walls any pictures on the wall. Nature is full of beauty. Focusing outward will take your mind off of your phobia.
- Ask Questions – Focus on other people, it takes your attention from inward to outward, as a by product this strategy will help you to make friends you make others feel valued when you focus on them.
- Turn off your imagination – Just before the event focus on things that make you feel good.
- Focus on your breathing, take deep breaths when needed.
- Repetition – Repeat the things on this list until you no longer feel anxiety. Be confident, even if you do not “feel confident”. Act Confident. Act as if Luke 12:25, “Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life.” 1 Timothy 6:6, “Godliness with contentment is great gain.”