Archive | September 2015

Smart and Fit

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3 Secrets to Success

  • Pray to build my spirit
  • Read to build my mind
  • Exercise to build my body

Find it difficult to get to the gym  with your busy schedule of work and kids?  Start where you are.  Start at home.  Just start!

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image_thumb Prefer to jog?  Get your heart pumping!  Do it with your partner.

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10 Benefits of being Fit

  • It improves your IQ.  Due to increased oxygen getting to your brain as well as using more of your brain for movement and coordination.  It has been found in testing that the concentration and memory was improved in people who did regular exercise.

  • It improves mood.  This creates the momentary improved mood known as “runner’s high” which causes many runners to become “hooked” and overtime your overall mood will change permanently for the better.

  • It Improves your looks.  Running results in many advantages such as healthier skin, hair,fewer wrinkles and bags under your eyes.  Also results in lower body fat percentage and more lean muscle which all results in improved health.

  •  It improves your sex drive.  It improves your energy levels resulting in longer lasting and better sex.

  • It will result in fewer illness.

  • Protects you from heart disease.  Any cardiovascular exercise strengthens your heart, your heart is a muscle and gets strengthened the same as a bicep would from lifting a dumbbell.  Which means your less likely to suffer heart disease and other heart attack problems.

  • It improves your circulatory system.  This means that your blood is pumped more efficiently around your body and can prevent  problems caused by cholesterol.

  •  Helps you to sleep better.  Exercise during the day will help you sleep better at night also it lowers stress levels.

  • Slows down the effects of aging.  Exercise results in the production of growth hormone which has shown to reverse many of the effects of aging by helping you to heal individual cells.  Also helps to heal wounds faster.

It speeds up your metabolism.  You will burn fat more quickly even when you are not exercising, you will be warmer at night and flush problems out of your system more quickly.

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Developing Emotional Intimacy

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Emotional Intimacy is not the same as sexual intimacy.  Sexual intimacy can take place with or without emotional intimacy, and emotional intimacy often does not happen within any kind of sexual context. Emotional Intimacy is a psychological event that occurs when the trust level and communication between two people is such that it fosters the mutual sharing of each others innermost selves.  It is unbridled mutual self disclosure.

Sadly, a lacking of emotional intimacy in relationships is common, and as a result we pay a heavy price.  It’s absence can easily be seen through strained and failed relationships of those around us.  And reflected in the staggering divorce rates.  In our most intimate relationships we seek to feel wholly accepted, respected, worthy and even admired in the eyes of our mates.

We would like our relationship to be a comfortable place for us when we are weary, a place of compassion and support.  Emotional intimacy is needed for these feelings to develop and continue, which is why both single and married women alike can learn from this.

If you’re a single woman with a relationship moving toward marriage, building emotional intimacy is essential to your relationship and will be easy if God’s hand is on the relationship.  For a married woman emotional intimacy is needed to continue to build lasting marriages.  It’s not a one time deal like many things it must be practiced.  When there is a lacking of emotional intimacy relationships break down.

If emotional intimacy is the glue that holds our unions together why do we seem to avoid it like the plague?

The reason is the majority of people have difficulty practicing openness and allowing themselves to be vulnerable with someone else.  I personally had some difficulty in this area.  Due to gender socialization this might be a more trying process for men.  However, both genders  struggle immensely  with divulging how they really think or feel, for fear of the ultimate rejection, the rejection of our true selves.  Simply stated intimacy is developed through conversation that can lead to an unusually high degree of emotional intimacy and satisfaction in marriage.

For you single ladies this the main reason that it is never good to meet someone, have sex first and ask questions later.  Ladies allow men enough time to prove himself to you. (without having sex with him). Time tells all and in enough time you will be able to tell if he’s full of it, or not. You see men are driven by conquest. Once the conquest is done he is on to the next. So if you maintain your power you won’t have to wonder” where this relationship is going”. You will know. It will be going the way you want it to go and if its not, 86 him! so you can speed up the process to the man God has for you.   If this were a game most women would loose every time because your giving away your power!  Your giving away the prize before he even won the contest fair and square.  The prize is you.

You are the goal to be be pursued and won.  Let him slay those dragons to win your heart.  Men were designed and built to go after the prize.  How else is he going to know when he’s found the one if its no different than the last five girls he dated.  Show him you are the one by keeping the keys to the kingdom unless and until he’s ready to make a solid commitment anything less is unacceptable.  Because he can get sex anywhere, its the difference in you he will respect.  For married women you can start out being big communicators in your relationship then somewhere along the lines it stops.  Again its not a one time deal like many things in a marriage it must be practiced, like sex, encouraging one another, complimenting each other, having heart to heart talks etc..

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  How can we achieve emotional Intimacy ?

  • Give undivided attention to each other when discussing things of importance. By eliminating distractions like the TV, internet, and focus on each other and communicate.  If the kids are going to be running around, wait until their bed time when the house is quiet.

  • Balance the conversation.  Each person has to talk and listen uninterrupted.

  •  Use conversation to learn more about your spouse.  Really listen and be a good listener.

  • Be honest about how you feel, even if it hurts.  Once its all out there you can deal with it. With holding your true feelings will not help to build emotional Intimacy.

  • Go into the conversation with both parties dedicated to a goal of finding a solution.  Sometimes things can get off track in conversation.  Stick to the topic at hand and agree that we are discussing this to find a solution.  So if each of you have the mindset of we’re tackling this problem together to find a solution, it will take the edge off of both you, and neither of you will be coming from a place of defensiveness.

 

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Showing Respect to your Husband

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Men’s greatest need in marriage is Respect.  Yet too often wives neglect to give their husbands the respect that they need which significantly damages marriages.  When you withhold respect from your husband it’s as painful to him and as harmful to your marriage as a man with holding love from his wife, which is a woman’s greatest need in a marriage.  The media in sitcoms often portray women as strong leaders  in their households, while the husband is a bumbling idiot who’d be totally lost without his wife, who has it all together.

This is opposite of the biblical marriage in which the man is the strong, wise leader of his house and this is the example for believers to follow.  I don’t know any woman who wants a man with his ahh…. head in the sand and needs to be led around by his woman.  In terms of the media I think it’s part of a larger plan to devalue men in this modern age  in society.

I love it when you can look up to man, respect him, admire him, and as a woman know that you are in good hands!  Because of my respect and love for my man, who’s super smart, because I trust him , he has gotten me to step out of my comfort zone and try new things and that is because HE LEADS.

For example: I’m afraid of heights, but I love nature and the great outdoors, and he wanted to show me the beautiful High Sierra Mountains where he has taken the boys camping.  It’s at least 8,500 feet above sea level.  This is something I would never plan on my own.  So number one, I knew I was in good hands, number two, it’s good to do things that your husband enjoys with him, and three, I really wanted to see  the mountains and to do that I needed to stretch myself.  He and I and the boys packed up and away we went, and I went camping that weekend.  Awesome.  He has carried himself as a leader since the first day I met him and it’s so Sexy!! Ephesians 5:33, “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”

10  Ways to show respect for your Husband

  1. Develop the self control you need to respond rather react to your husband.  James 1:19, “Aim to be quick to listen and slow to speak or become angry.”  Ask gentle questions to clarify what you think he is saying rather than arguing with him.

  2. Resist the temptation to give unsolicited advice, simply listen when your husband talks about the problems and challenges he’s facing.  Offer advice only when he asks for it.  Be a good listener.

  3. Be encouraging rather than judge mental or critical.  Ask God to help you refrain from judging or criticizing your husband and instead encourage him as often as possible.  When you regularly encourage your husband he will develop more trust in you and start to confide in you more.

  4. Allow your husband to be in charge of your home.  Trust God to help bring you and your husband into unity as you make decisions together, thereby respecting God’s role for you husband as the head of your home.  By letting him make the final call when you both disagree about something, you are respecting God as well, because God holds your husband responsible for the consequences.

  5. Join your husband for recreational activities he enjoys.  Let your husband enjoy your company on his own terms sometimes.  Be willing to join him doing something that he enjoys regardless of whether or not you enjoy it as much as he does.

  6. Don’t put unjust financial pressure on your husband.  Respect your husband’s hard work and efforts to earn money and thank him for it.  Ask God to help you meet your financial needs in ways that don’t involve pressuring your husband, such as earning more money yourself to take some of the financial burden off your husband.  Marriage is a partnership.

  7. Organize your home.  Do whatever you can to make your home’s environment orderly.  Which will create a respectful atmosphere for you and your husband both to enjoy, leading to less stress and more peace in your marriage.

  8.  Treat your husband like a man not a boy.  Ask God to make you aware of any times when you’ve been treating your husband like a child rather than like the adult that he is.  Develop a habit  of saying and doing things that respect your husband’s manhood.

  9. Pray for and with your husband.  The family that prays together stays together.  Respect your husband’s concerns enough to bring them to God in prayer.

  10. Forgive your husband Matthew 18:20-22 “Whenever your husband hurts or offends you, rely on God to empower you to do so.”Give-Your-Man-Respect-and-You-Will-Be-Loved-300x272

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Momcations

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What is a Momcation?  A momcation is a name that has been created by the media as a vacation for mom away from the kids with the goal of relaxing renewing and repairing mom, so she can be an even greater mom when she returns home.  Straightaway I know moms are going to feel like , “I can’t afford to get away right now or take any time for myself.”  I say, You can’t afford not to.  You must take time for yourself and it doesn’t have to be extravagant.

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We will explore different ways of doing this

  1. Motherhood is a full time job.  Even when the kids are in school you are doing mom things.  Folding laundry, making doctor’s appointments, making snacks for a sports team, there’s always something.

  2.  Your kids will be okay without you.  As long as they are in good hands your kids will survive your absence.  It’s good for them – and you – to know this first hand.  Whether it is your husband,  grandparents, or a loving trusted caregiver who is willing to stay with your children, take that blessing and run with it.  Giving them a chance to miss you can help them develop the important virtues of gratitude and appreciation.

  3. Your spouse (or other caregivers), will get a better sense of what you do.  There are so many things moms do that are just a given.  Your husband may not realize just how much you do, between scheduling, shuffling, schooling, organizing and cooking.  So it will be an eye-opener for him to wrestle with it a while.

  4. MOM is irreplaceable, of course, but when your kids don’t have you readily available they find other means.  They may find that Dad makes a pretty mean pizza from the oven, or that grandma makes better pancakes than you do.

  5. Your kids will grow in your absence.  Have you ever  notice a leap in your kids emotional maturity, cognitive abilities etc, when you go away on a family trip?  Different experiences forces them to grow up.

  6. Your family’s annoying habits will magically become endearing.  All of those little irritations and small annoyances that build up on a daily basis take their proper place in the larger scheme of things when you get some distance from them.

  7. You will remember who you are.  Being a mom is a huge part of who I am obviously.  But it’s not all of me I was a woman before I had kids, and sometimes that woman gets lost in the melee of motherhood.

  8. While we are ever-devoted moms and wouldn’t trade our kids and families for the world, it’s nice to get some me time.

  9. Without time out for yourself you will become burned out.  Which is not good for you or the family.

  10. You will love coming home.  Refreshed and with a renewed attitude.  Yay!! mommy’s back.

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There are weekend spa retreats that work as a mini momcations.  If you are unable to get away for an entire weekend go for day.  If you think it’s too expensive, think about the last expensive thing you bought for your kids, like that play station at four hundred dollars or more after you finish buying the game cartridges and so on.  If you can do that you can do this, you have to invest in yourself.

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These wraps are all the rage in spa treatments.  Women arrive in the morning and leave an hour later three dress sizes smaller and completely cellulite free.  “Detox ” wraps draw toxins from your body.

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10 Low cost or no cost momcations ideas

1. Time management is very important sometimes you can switch your schedule around to make time for yourself.  For instance while the kids are in school instead doing laundry, or grocery shopping, go to a coffee shop enjoy a cup, or a park and read your book.  The laundry will keep.


2. Take a few minutes  during your day to watch funny videos on YouTube, laughter is good medicine and keeps you young.


3. Put the kids to bed or have Dad take them out for a treat and watch a good movie uninterrupted.


4.  Connect with other adults.  Call up a girlfriend and have girl talk.


5. Go thrift shopping with another mom.  You’ll be amazed how a few pieces here and there can make a big difference in your wardrobe.


6. Walk a nature trail at at local park, taking the time to breathe fresh air, is good for the lungs and psyche.


7. Have  your spouse keep the kids away for an hour while you take a nice relaxing soak in the tub


8.  After the kids are asleep make yourself a nice blender drink or glass of wine and relax in the backyard. Enjoy the quiet.


9. Take a few moments to enjoy soothing music, smooth jazz, or whatever calming for you.


10. Join a book club that meets maybe once a month and again enjoy some peer level conversation. The point is do something for yourself.  Do something you enjoy.  Your kids and family are a priority, your job and or career is a priority.  Make yourself a Priority!

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Holy Land Experience

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Can’t swing a trip to Israel right now, but would like to explore an educational trip with spiritual meaning for the whole family?  The Holy Land Experience is a Christian Theme Park in Orlando Florida. A non-profit corporation which conducts weekly church services, and Bible studies, amazing exhibits, and live shows to the general public.  There are a ton of interesting exhibits like, The garden Of Eden, Noah’s Ark, Solomon’s treasure, and a lot more.  Check their website for visitors information.

The Holy Land’s theme park recreates the architecture and themes of the ancient city of Jerusalem in 1st century Judea.  It’s kind of like an indoor outdoor biblical museum.  The Holy Land Experience is owned by TBN- Trinity Broadcast Network.  The trinity broadcasting network is an international Christian based broadcast television Network.

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Re-creation of Jesus’s Tomb

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The Ark of the Covenant

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The Roman Centurions

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Taking Jesus to the cross

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Live Show

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Jerusalem Church

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The real Tomb of Jesus

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The river Jordan, Israel

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Jordan Waterfall, Israel

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The Red Sea at Sunset


Modern Day Egypt 2015

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Matthew 2:12  “An angel of the Lord appeared to Joseph in a dream and said, Get up! Take the child and his mother and flee to Egypt and remain there until I tell you.  For Herod is going to search for the child to destroy him.  So Joseph got up and took the child and his mother while it was still night, and left for Egypt.”

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Nile River

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