Archive | May 2016

Leadership and Masculine Energy

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Surrendering to the Masculine Energy

  • Surrendering means letting go.  And Trusting and letting a man take care of you when you need it.  It’s also about letting him in and liberating yourself from your fears.

We all want a strong man that takes charge!  I know I do, and I have one.  As a strong independent woman it took me a while to learn how to “Surrender to the masculine Energy”.   I never knew there was such a concept.  However, it is a very real one meant to protect the woman.  The idea behind surrendering to the masculine energy is no longer fearing it but trusting it.  And letting it protect you within God’s plan for the person He has for you.  Ephesians 5:23, “the husband is the head of the wife”, and a  “Covering”  for her. The Problem is a lot of men use their masculine energy in very bad ways, ( rape, abuse, mental, emotional abuse).  But we’re not looking to attract these types of men.  We need to nourish and encourage the men who use their masculine energy for good.

How does a woman Surrender to the masculine energy and trust his leadership?

  • Understand that the masculine and feminine energy work together.  The more feminine you are the more masculinity you will trigger in a man.

  • Let go of past hurts and pains, of the men who may have hurt you or taken advantage of you.

  •  Let go of your need to be in control.  Let go of the need to be the a strong tower island.  No man is an island.  The masculine and feminine energies need each other.

  • Once you really let go.  It will take true introspection from within and time to grow past that point to another level.  Learn to breathe and relieve yourself of past pain and suffering.  You will attract a masculine loving male in to your life.

Do not Resist

  • Much of a woman’s inability to surrender has to do with this underlying power struggle that plagues many relationships. i.e. egos battling.  No one wants to take the first move to apologize. Often people don’t want to show vulnerability.

  • The reality is that no matter how much we try to avoid pain it’s going to come, it’s part of life.

  • Do not resist the masculine energy.  Sometimes a man may be moody, angry, or intense.  Perhaps these things scare you and cause you to be defensive, a very common problem.  Despite how tense or intimidating he may seem instead of being resentful be smart and know where it all comes from his “masculine energy.”

  • Be confident, (notice I didn’t say “feel” confident), that the feminine energy can handle the masculine energy without (matching it’s aggression and anger).  Not only handle it, but inspire it, drive it, influence it!  The more you let go the better your love life and dating life will become.

  •  The feminine energy fuels the masculine energy.  When you feel resistance and tension in your relationship. If you are both in a bad state remember that a woman can break a man’s state and get you both into a more loving and resourceful place.

  • The feminine energy is never truly free unless and until the masculine energy shows up “for real in her life” and is ready and willing to protect and serve.

  • Surrender with love, acceptance, openness, completely and fully to the masculine energy.

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Memorial Day Rememberance

Happy Memorial Day God Bless

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What are you grateful for today?

Take some time today to reflect on the good things in your life.  My list of what I’m grateful for is below.  If this list resonates with anyone, God bless you, I think that’s awesome!

      1.  Grateful to God for all he has done and is doing in my life.
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      2.  Grateful for good health and strength.
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      3.  Grateful for family, good friends, and loved ones.
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      4.  Grateful for career, and ability to earn a living.
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      5.  Grateful for hope of the future and awesome things to come


  • We will spend our Memorial Day at home this year relaxing.  My menu consists of Hamburgers, hot dogs, barbecue chicken, macaroni salad, baked beans, corn on the cob, and potatoes chips.  I usually prepare more food but we’re trying to stay fix and not over-indulge.   Living in Southern California we’re near several beaches so that’s awesome.  We also have a pool and hot tub at home.  My husband and I will spend some time in it this weekend.  It’s a long holiday weekend and I’m just happy to have my husband off work to spend time at home.  Tell us how you’re going to spend your Memorial Day weekend.
  • I would like to take this time to thank all our readers and followers for your viewership.  SCW has really taken off over the past year and it’s all because of you.  We appreciate our viewers.  So shout out to the US, and we are very proud of our international following so shout out to:

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Memorial Day Weekend Getaway tips 2016

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Whether you’re traveling by car, land, sea, or air.  This Memorial day weekend promises to be one of the busiest and most dangerous to date.  38 million Americans will hit the road this holiday weekend.  That’s up 700,000 from last year and the highest total since 2005.  The number of people traveling by cars is up 2% due to cheaper gas prices.  9 out 10 Americans will be hitting the highway.

Traveling with family and loved ones this holiday, fun and relaxation is foremost in the minds of most Americans, but the main concern has to be safety.  To safely get to and from your destinations without incident or at least with as little stress as possible.  Below are a few tips to keep your family safe this Memorial Day!

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  • Travel Safety

1. Don’t drink and drive or travel with anyone that has been drinking.

2.  Wear your seat belts at all times.

3.  Make sure your vehicle has been serviced before a long road trip. keep car charger handy.

 

  • Sun safety

4.  Use sunscreen with an SPF of 30 or higher and apply it generously throughout the day.  Also use an  “After Sun” moisturizer on your skin.

5.  Wear hat and sunglasses.

6.  Drinks lots of water and stay hydrated.

7.  Do not swim alone.

8.  Supervise small children at all times

  • Food Safety

9.  Wash hands thoroughly with soap and warm water before handling food.  Also wash after handling raw poultry or meat, to guard against cross contamination of bacteria.  Keep uncooked meats away from other foods.

10.  Cook food thoroughly especially ground beef poultry and pork.  Refrigerate all perishable food within two hours.

  • Enjoy the holiday weekend with friends and family and remember to pay respects to those who have given so much for us to be able to enjoy the liberties we enjoy today!!

 

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Happy Memorial Day Weekend from SCW to all our readers and all service men.  Have a blast guys!!

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Authority and Submission

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Romans 13:1, “For there is no authority except from God and those which exist are established by God.”  Immediately most people think this scripture speaks of civil government.  It also speaks of Parents, husbands and wives, teachers, church leaders, policemen, all human authority.  The Bible is clear that the husband is the head of the home and his wife should submit to him.

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 “Wives submit yourselves as unto your own husbands as unto the Lord.” This is not to say that because God has placed the husband in charge that he can be reckless and lawless in his decision-making.  He himself is under God’s authority and has to answer to Him.  Ephesians 5:25,  “Husbands love your wives as God loves the church and gave Himself for it.”

Understanding Authority and Submission

  • Equality

Although the husband is the head of the home, he is not superior to his wife.  Although the wife submits to his final word she is not inferior to her husband.  They are equals.  Mark 10:8, “the two shall become one.” God has ordained that the principle of authority and submission only work when those in authority and submission recognize the principle of equality.  They have no insecurities about their importance or uniqueness which is derived solely from God.

Submission is strength under control.  If the wife is to be a strong Christian witness to her husband.  She should make submission her attitude.

Roles.  While husband and wife are equal. They have distinctively different roles that they have been designed for.  When those gifts and talents work together and are in alignment with God’s purposes a harmonious bond is formed.

  • Foundation

Christ has established order in the family. 1 Corinthians 14:40, “Let everything be done decently and in order.”  Let your life in God be the foundation for all that you do for your husband and not a conflict.  As a wife and mother you should never habitually neglect your responsibilities to your husband and family in order to read the Bible, attend church meetings, or work, your greatest work is done inside your home!  God wants you to grow where you’ve been planted.

Neglecting your responsibilities will produced resentment in your loved ones.  And give satan an “In” into your home to ultimately destroy.  Keep it tight at home ladies!!!  John 10:10, tells us that “the thief only comes to kill, steal and destroy.”  Psalm 127:1, “Unless God builds the house those who build it labor in vain.”  Wow can you imagine building something all for nothing! Like going to work everyday in rush hour traffic both ways day after day year after year and never being paid. OMG.

Heed the word of God for the foundation of your life.  Matthew 7:26, “Those who hear my words and do not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand.”

Proverbs 24:3,  “By wisdom a house is built and through understanding it is established.”

  • Benefits of Submission

To fulfill God’s commandments and live a life pleasing to Him to avoid  consequences.  Romans 13:2 “Consequently he who rebels against the authority is rebelling against what God has instituted and those who do so will bring judgement on themselves.”

The Blessings of God.  The wife who robs her husband of his God-given rights also robs her children of God’s intended blessings.

A strong male Christian leader in the household.  There are millions of households out there that do not have male leadership. (mostly single parent homes)  There are millions of women who pray for male leadership.  It is a strong component to the success of the family.  Did you know that “gangs” are the result of No fathers in the household?

Teaching your children leadership and servitude.  God says that leaders should be the greatest servant.  Leaders serve.  I love to serve my family.  They are always asking can I help you do this or that?   “set the table”,  help with cooking?  I’m always telling them to stay out of the kitchen.  I tell them no I just want you to relax.  I love all things domestic and just love to serve.  I have a servant’s heart. John 13:14,  “Now that I your Lord and teacher have washed your feet you should also wash one another’s feet, I have set an example for you.”

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Diffusing Arguments

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To take arguments down a notch, start sentences with “I” not “You” suggests Lind Hill Professor of business administration at Harvard Law School.  This will help the other person to see your perspective and understand that you’re not trying to blame them for the problem.  Don’t play the blame game.  It does not accomplish anything, you might say “well it was their fault.”  Okay but no matter whose fault it is, it’s up to the both of you to work through the problem to find the solution.

What affects you affects me.  So like adults you arrive at a place of decision so that you may move forward.  The problem is in the process of trying to reach the destination.  Tempers flare, and communication decreases into a full-blown argument where both parties are yelling to be heard because no one is listening.  This is counterproductive.

Rather than thinking about what you want to say in an argument consider what you want to learn.  Ask yourself.  What was my part in this?  What could I have done better?  What can we do together to  make this situation better?  Or what can we do to eliminate this type of situation from happening in the future.  Take the focus off of each other as the “bad guy”.  Instead focus on the problem.  What can we do to combat this?

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1.  Pause.Stop. Reset. Walk away if you have to.  Sometimes a person’s emotions are so out of control at that moment that there is no  calming them down.  In these moments one of you has to stay calm!  It takes two to tango.  And if you stand there and trade anger for anger it’s going to escalate with no resolution.  Recognize when this is happening and say “We’ll talk later when we’re both calmer.”

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2.  Listen and Cushion your blows.  Listen to your partner’s concerns, think, then respond.  You cannot both yell and hope to be heard.  In addition sit down and hear each other out.  A study done at Harvard shows people are more calm and more receptive to what you have to say if they’re sitting down.

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3.  Be willing to approach difficult topics.  Talk in a calm tone. If you always feel like it’s not a good idea to approach difficult topics, they won’t get resolved.  Those difficult topics could have been diffused with a heart to heart become big problems that drag on and become harder later.  Nip it in the bud as soon as possible to avoid big storms.

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4.  Touch to ease tensions.  Putting your hands on your partner’s knee or holding hands can take the sting out of an argument or squabble.

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5.  Ask Questions.  Do you have any suggestions on how you would like to handle this?  How can we move from where we are to where we want to be?

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