Genesis 2:18, “and the Lord God said it is not good for man to be alone, I will make him a helpmate.” If you are a wife or called to be a wife you must first understand God’s divine calling on your life. Do you realize that you were created specifically to be your husband’s helper. The word helper means one who aids another. The woman was created because the man needed help from someone who could aid him in his responsibilities.
Knowing God has a plan for your life as wife are you willing to yield to Him and submit and be your best version of a biblical wife? The problem with some women is they don’t want to be the helper they want to be the head. If you’re trying to be the head you will not be a helper to your husband. Your striving to be the head will only create conflict and tension. So do you truly want to be a wife that supports her husband?
5 Ways a Wife can be a Helpmate
- Become an excellent wife.
Proverbs 12:4, “an excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness to his bones.” Proverbs 31:10, “Virtuous Woman”, describes how to be a helpmate to your husband. I recommend reading it over and over for yourself. To give you an overall synopsis of that scripture, “what it means to be a helpmate and excellent wife”? It’s a woman with Godly character and moral strength that can only come from a personal relationship with God.
- Submission is vital.
Ephesians 5:22 “wives submit to your husband.” We are called to first submit to the Lord in all things. Submission creates a chain of command, harmony and order to any organization including the family. Becoming submissive to your husband eliminates the power struggle between the two of you and brings great harmony to the relationship. A good Christian wife submits to be obedient, to keep harmony, to show love, and to keep order in her life.
- Be his companion.
Do you see your marriage as a covenant you made to be his companion? God has called the two of you to come together as a team to love and build up one another and to train your children. You can’t do this if you’re your husbands adversary.
- Be a good homemaker.
Titus 2:4-5, The word homemaker in this passage means to care for and manage the home. Just as the husband is supposed to work and provide for his family. A wife is to work at caring for her home. This can be especially challenging if the wife works outside the home. She must still take care of her responsibilities at home knowing that her priorities are at home first and she must strike a balance between work, home and family.
- Respect him. A man’s greatest need is respect. Respect as a man and as an individual, the respect of his woman and family, respect in his community. Ephesians 5:33 “Let the wife respect her husband.” Respect for your husband is vital if you truly desire to be your husband’s helper and an excellent wife.