Archive | August 2016

The Root of all Evil ?

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A consistently misunderstood verse.  People take the verse to mean money is evil or bad, and that couldn’t be further from the truth.  Anyone who believes that hasn’t studied their bible.  The correct verse 1 Timothy 6:10, says “the love of money is the root of all evil”, not money itself, but the love of it.  For example, you love money so much that you would kill for it, steal for it, or sin against God for it. Proverbs 17:16,  “For what good is money in the hands of a fool.”  Money is a blessing in the right hands. Are you sowing into someone else’s life today?  Sowing does not necessarily mean money, you can sow time, kindness, good deeds.  However in this post the topic is money and we are called to be channels so that blessings might flow through us so that we can bless others.

I love to bless other people.  In every household there are questions, they are called bills.  And they are all asking the question how, when?  The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 10:19, “money answers all things”.  It’s what allows you to have a life.  Genesis 8:22,  “As long as the earth remains there will always be seed, time and harvest.”  So what does the bible say about money?

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7 Bible verses that tells us God wants us to Prosper

•  3 John 1:2, “Beloved I wish above all things that you prosper and be in health even as your soul prospers.”

•  Ecclesiastes 7:2, “Money is a defense.”

•  Malachi 3:10, “Bring the tithe into the store house that there might be meat.”

•  Deuteronomy 8:18, “Ye shall remember the Lord your God for it is he that gives you the power to get wealth.”

•  Proverbs, “wealth by vanity is diminished, but he that gather by labor increase”

•  Philippians 4:19,  “My God shall supply all my needs according to his riches in glory.”

•  Psalms 115:14,  “May the Lord give you increase more and more.”

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Building Strong families In Christ

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Real Christians are citizens of heaven living in a hostile world, Philippians 3:20, John 15:18.  It is a blessing to be able to return home for those who love Christ.  The home is where we find spiritual agreement and purpose.  Here is where we build Christian character and teach sound doctrine within the privacy of the family unit.  The “old school” word for this is, “home training”.  Since I was raised by three generations growing up, my grandparents, great grandparents, and my mom, I had a lot of that.  I feel as if there’s not enough of that today.  So many parents wanting to be their kids friends in an effort to be “cool”.  I’m already cool!  I’m also a parent and my job is to guide, teach, and nurture.

Home is where love begins, kindness is shown and loyalty instilled.  Our children should not be often absent from home because they’re at this person,  or that person’s house. They should be taught to spend their spare time at home.  We need to remember be it ever so humble there’s no place like home.  The family is the basic social unit around which everything in society revolves.  If you destroy the family you will destroy civilization.  A strong wholesome family is the strength of society and our lives.

What are some strength of a healthy family?

•  Be committed to a wholesome spiritual life for yourself.  You can not lead people where you have never been yourself.

•  Be committed to the family social unit.  With our ever increasing busy schedules it’s easy to lose focus on spending quality time with our families and children.  It’s important to remember that although our kids are nearing adulthood they still need parental involvement.

•  Strengthen parent – teen relationship through activity.  For instance when your out shopping with them, or doing other activities, that’s a great time to talk with them.

•  Use good communication skills within the family to avoid overlooking the desires of each other. Be considerate.

•  Express appreciation for each family member.  Understand that Christian families are not perfect.  Fight for peace in your home.

•  Pray for your family.  We must pray for our families according to the will of God.  We must pray that our loved ones find and stay in the will of God.  Prayer is extremely vital for survival.  Pray also for guidance, direction, peace, and safety.

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Spiritual Awakening

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12 Symptoms of Spiritual Awakening

 An increased tendency to let things happen rather than make things happen

•  Frequent attacks of genuine smiling ,evidence of a happy soul.

•  Feelings of being connected with others and nature.

•  An unmistakable ability to enjoy each moment.

•  A loss of ability to worry.

•  A loss of interest in conflict.

•  A loss of interest in judging others.

•  A loss of interest in judging self

•  Gaining the ability to love without expecting anything

•  Continuous praise and worship to the Lord

 Being a prisoner of hope.

•  Living your purpose.

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Affirmations

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30 Ways to Love your Husband

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  1. Respect him, and show respect towards him.
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  2. Listen to him.  Give him your undivided attention.
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  3. Encourage him.  Give him a positive thought to meditate on.
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  4. Make Love to him.  Keep him satisfied.
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  5. Make his favorite meal or dessert.
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  6. Offer to do something you know he enjoys.
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  7. Send him a romantic email or text.
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  8. Say something positive about him when you’re with others.
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  9. Thank him for being supportive.
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  10. Comment on some of the good decisions he’s made.
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  11. Point out to him the things that make him unique.
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  12. Take time to greet him when he arrives and see him off when he leaves.
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  13. Be happy and content.  More than anything else your attitude will go a long way in setting his.
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  14. Cut arguments short by letting go of your need to be right.  Wait until you both cool down and communicate your thoughts through kindness and patience.
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  15. Have fun with him.  Relax and let yourself laugh.
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  16. Ask him if there’s anything he’d like you to pray for.
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  17. Wear an outfit he likes on you.
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  18. Organize his space for him.  A sock drawer, closet, office desk.
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  19. Give him a hug when you pass by his way.
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  20. Hold his hand when you fall asleep.
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  21. Take his hand when you’re walking or driving.
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  22. Give him direct eye contact when you talk to him.
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  23. Let him know you respect his leadership.
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  24. Let him know that you like the way he handled a certain situation.
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  25. Tell him the ways in which you’ve learned from him.
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  26. If there is a tool or electronic he’s been wanting to buy, surprise him with it.
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  27. Do something with him that he likes to do but you may not be particularly interested in.
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  28. Ask him if he’d like anything when you make a trip to the kitchen.
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  29. When you’re out shopping for yourself, pick up a little treat for him.
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  30. Admire him with your eyes.

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Christian Dating Principles – Waiting on the man God has for You

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Some days it’s a lot harder to be patient and wait for the person God would have you be with.  We bring our concerns to the Lord again and again and we grow tired of waiting.  Often our desire wants to take control, do the best we can to speed the situation along.  God hears our prayers and knows what we need, when we need it.  And if it is His will He will answer your prayer in His timing.

As we know God’s timing doesn’t often coincide with ours.  You’re not alone in waiting.  Waiting is a common practice for all of us.  Patience is a discipline.  Hebrews 12:11, “No discipline seems joyous for the present but later on yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness”  (I love that one).


5 Ways to Prepare yourself for the man of God

  • Be a woman that has an established relationship with God first.
  • Be a well-rounded partner, someone interesting, radiating positive energy that makes men want to get to know you.
  • Ask God to give you the strength to wait patiently and trust Him.
  • Be open to accepting the man of God when he comes.
  • Be someone he is proud of intellectually, physically, and emotionally, take care of your health and appearance.

  • Isaiah 40:31, “They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength.  They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall walk and not be weary, they shall run and not faint.”

 

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How Technology is causing millennials to lack Interpersonal and Relationship Skills

 

Over the years technology has become an increasingly popular way for people to communicate.  Technology now connects people around the world.  We are living in a community so focused on the convenience of life that people don’t realize they’re loosing basic social skills.  Millennials spend more than 10 hours a day “plugged in”.  Phone use?  Forget about it.  Millennials are glued to their phones constantly.  According to a study by Nielsen Research  Company, the average person age 13 to 17 sends 3,339 text messages a month.

Technology is impersonal and creating a psychological problem as well as a social one.  The lack of social skills is a barrier which prevents the establishment of a connection and relationships that last.  90% of relationship is communication.  So without constructive communications relationships will fail and at best be superficial.

 

  • What are social Skills?

Social skills are any skills facilitating interaction and communication with others.  Social rules and relations are created, communicated, and changed in verbal and nonverbal ways.  The process of learning these skills are called socialization.

  • What are interpersonal skills?

Interpersonal skills are sometimes referred to as social skills, people skills, soft skills, communication skills, or life skills.

  • What is a relationship?

A relationship is the way in which two or more persons, concepts, or subjects are connected.

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4 Social skills Technology is Destroying

  • Eye contact – Being able to sustain eye contact well, and know when it is appropriate.  Good luck getting past a job interview without looking the interviewer in the eyes.
  • Phone skills – Not how fast you can text, but the ability to actually speak on the phone and have an effective exchange.
  • Conversation – The art of conversation is definitely the biggest social skills millennials lack.  Asking questions about others actively listening, and being able to read others physical social cues.
  • Spatial awareness – the person in public standing in the middle of an isle frantically texting or chatting on the phone.  We’ve all been forced to maneuver around them because they are oblivious to the world around them, “phone zombies”.  Or worse, on the road texting while driving on the highway not paying attention, endangering the lives of others.  Whatever the case don’t be that person.

4 Ways Technology is hurting your Relationship

  • Virtual connections do not replace physical intimacy.  What fosters feeling between significant others?  Physical contact, holding hands, hugs, smiles, skin to skin, eye to eye contact.
  • Messages are easily misinterpreted.  Text can only convey so much.  It lacks facial expression and vocal inflection.  Psychologist say, “the sounds of voices” sharing thoughts makes an emotional connection.  Which is why some couples use talking as a prelude to sex.
  • Interrupting quality time together to “check things online”.  Each and every interruption to your time alone diminishes the intensity of the connection.
  • Problem solving skills. If a relationship is a connection, and you’re being disconnected by technology, then it’s not a relationship in its proper context.  What you have is an associate.  Until you learn to properly relate you will go through life feeling disconnected and unfulfilled.  It will take social therapy and a relationship counselor to help you relearn relationship and interpersonal skills so that you can move forward.

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The 80/20 Relationship Rule?

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Nobody’s perfect.  Life isn’t perfect.  It isn’t meant to be.  So what is the 80/20 relationship rule?  The 80/ 20 rule is this.  If you have someone to love and someone to love you back and overall you have a good relationship, cherish them and keep them.  Again not a perfect relationship, but about 80 percent is good with room for improvement always in an in imperfect life.

Problem is most people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to relationships.  They have this picture in their minds of a perfect physical specimen.  They have their long list of expectations and dreams of a fantasy relationship.  If this is you, you’re living in a dream.  Even when God pairs you with the person He has for you they still won’t be perfect.  Romans 3:10, “There is none perfect no not one.”  

A lot of women find themselves going from relationship to relationship looking for an ideal.  You, yourself are not perfect but hopefully you’ll find someone that’s perfect for you and you can grow in Christ together.  The 80/20 rule in relationships is fascinating and can help you understand what matters in a relationship.  However, it’s up to your judgement to find and focus on the right details.  And only give a passing glance at little annoyances that can crop up now and then.

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3 Ways the 80/20 rule works in Relationships

  • Helps you to Focus on the positive in your partner instead of dwelling on the negative.
  • Helps you to keep relationship issues in perspective. What’s important, what’s not, and What’s the bigger picture?
  • Relationship experts say that 20% of the issues in a relationship cause 80% of the problems.  What this means is: Solomon 2:15,  “It’s the little foxes that spoil the vine.”  Over time little differences can crop up.  It could be as mundane as the types of movies you like, or where you’d like to vacation, you’re neat he’s messy.  It happens to all of us.  The best part is differences are repairable with a little compromise.  Don’t let little issues compound without communication.  These can lead to something bigger when they could have been avoided with a simple discussion.  Always explore the root causes of a situation. Focusing on the 20% of small frustrations can clear the most important of issues in a relationship.

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Monday Affirmations

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Summer Escape to Bora Bora

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The breathtaking French Polynesian Island of Bora Bora is a major international tourist destination.  Famous for it’s aqua-centric luxury resorts.  Coconut trees were historically of economic importance.  Today the island’s economy is mostly driven by tourism. Over water bungalows are a standard feature of most Bora Bora resorts.  The quality of the bungalows ranges from comparably cheap basic accommodations to very luxurious.  Click the video below for a sneak peek inside.

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Bora Bora Activities

 

  • Private Boat tours

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  • Safari tours

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  • Personal underwater Scooter

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  • Romantic Tours

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  • Aqua Safari with Helmet

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  • Fishing

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  • Snorkeling

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  • Sail boating

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  • Nightlife on the island

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The Color of Love: Christian Interracial Marriages

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Interracial marriage is on the rise in the U. S. and among Christians.  In 2013 a record high of 12% of newlyweds married someone of a different race according to census data.  Looking beyond newlyweds 6.3% of all marriages were between spouses of different races.  In 2014 37% of all Americans said having more people of different races marrying was a good thing for society.  In 2015 8.4% of all marriages were interracial.  The trend toward more interracial marriages is undoubtedly related at least in part to changing social norms.

For me, I come from and was raised in an interracial family, some biological some adopted.  For me it’s not the color that’s important, personally I believe that racism is taught.  If you put kids of different races in the sand box at the park they will all play together unless or until told that they cannot play with certain individuals.  Thank God for my family because there were never any negative or racial remarks made about other races in the home.  As a result I did not grow up with preconceived notions about race.  For me it’s not the color that’s important it’s the character !!!  If you have good character we can be friends.  If you have bad character I don’t want anything to do with you no matter your race.  That’s a job for God to handle, because only God can change character.

Thankfully God does not judge people on external  appearances.  He is no respecter of persons Acts 10:34.  The apostle Paul taught the same when he declared that God created all things, He is the Lord of heaven and earth, he made all nations from one man, Adam.  Acts 17:24-26.  Sure, interracial couples will encounter trials unique to their situation, as does anyone who dares to step outside of the box.  However, the beauty of interracial Christian marriages is that they both love God.  And they have the strength of character to stand up and say this is who I love in spite of any opposition they may face.  1 Corinthians 13:7  “Love bears all things, believe all things.”  Romans 8:31  “If God be for you he’s more than the whole world against you!”

  • As black – white marriages were prohibited in 16 states until 1967.  The fact that nearly 3 in 10 new black marriages are multiracial with most of them to white spouses.  This reflects an important shift toward blurring the long held color line in the United States.
  • There’s also been a jump in numbers with Asians and American Indians marrying inter-racially.

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The most famous interracial couple in history, Virginia vs. Loving (case 1958 – 1967)

Featured Couple of the day:  We acknowledge Mr. and Mrs. Richard Loving , heroes of interracial marriage.

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We are coming up on the 50th anniversary of the U.S. Supreme court decision that struck down all laws against interracial marriages in 16 states.  The case was brought by a black woman Mildred Loving and her husband Richard Loving, a white man who had been sentenced to a year in prison in Virginia for marrying each other.  With a 25 year suspended sentence on the condition that they leave the state of Virginia.  They did so and moved to Washington DC.  Their marriage violated the Racial Integrity act of 1924.  Which prohibited interracial marriage.

In June 1958 the couple traveled to Washington DC.  After several year of legal battles the Loving’s supported by the American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), appealed the decision to the United States supreme court.  And in 1967 the prohibition of interracial marriages was ruled unconstitutional.  The Loving’s had three children Sidney, Peggy and Donald.  Interracial marriages have increased steadily since then.  You can read the full amazing story online.

My beautiful Interracial family, whom I love with all my heart.

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When Mom is overwhelmed; and how to Recharge

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Do you have so much on your plate that you are left feeling overwhelmed and stressed out?  Juggling work, kids, family and your personal needs?  It’s easy to get sucked into a never-ending “to do” list and a constant demand for your attention from your kids.  What can you do to get back to a place of control, ease, and relaxation?

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1. Step out.  You can’t get away from feeling overwhelmed from a place of overwhelming confusion.  You have to step away to be able to give your circumstances a fresh perspective.

2. What is most important?  When we feel overwhelmed our minds become clouded by the task at hand and other tasks to come.  Figure out what’s most important at the moment of your current overwhelming feelings and concentrate on that.

 3. Creating boundaries. Time is our most precious commodity.  It is the only resource that is not renewable so spend it wisely and consciously.  Identify one thing that you can cross off your list.

4. Mommy timeout.  Kids are not the only ones that need a timeout when their emotions are out of control.  It feels comforting to do something mindless like watch TV or read the news or browse the internet, perhaps listen to soft music.

5. Bedtime Ritual.  The state in which we go to sleep is the state that we wake up.  Doing things that quiet your mind instead of clutter it before you go to bed helps you relax and fall asleep.  Get your small children on a regular bedtime schedule.  Prayer before bed is great way to end the day.


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  • iStock_000006068495Small-Woman-Nature-Partner  Get outdoors into the fresh air. Especially if you are a housewife, sometimes you can start to feel as if the walls are closing in on you.
  • happy-woman-gardening  Do something strictly for you, whatever relaxes you.  For me cooking and exercise is my me time.  I put on smooth jazz in the kitchen while I cook and it’s a little slice of heaven.  It could be gardening, polishing your nails, or watching a movie you enjoy, a half hour of exercise to relieve stress.
  • woman-taking-bubble-bath1-600x400   Take a long hot bubble bath. 
  • Building-Dignity-Home-Page  Spend time with someone who makes you laugh. 
  •  person-woman-relaxation-girl-large   Read a favorite book 

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  • Peer level Contact.  If you’re surrounded by 2 yr olds and 5 yr olds all day, you need to socialize with other moms who can relate to you and as a result build each other up.



Smart Tip of the day:  Being a Mom is a full-time job with no designated off days.  So I believe like any full-time job you need a 2 week vacation every year (momcation).  Especially if you’re a homemaker with small children, or a working mom.  If you’re unable to take 2 weeks, take 1 week but it should be mandatory and a priority.  In addition weekend getaways should be scheduled from time to time with just your husband.  Also Mom should be pampered as often as possible.  Hair and nails done at a salon. For some this is a luxury.  The bills are important, the kids are important, your husband is too, but so are you!!!
The things that make you feel good should not be discounted.  It should be added in as maintenance for the house manager.  Child care expense comes into play, but anything worth having is worth going through the trouble to get, and it will be so totally worth it.  At this point in my own life my kids are big and practically grown.  So it’s not an issue, however the business of being a mom,  homemaker, wife, author, and businesswoman requires me to stay in balance.  Meaning you can’t just work all the time and never take time for yourself.  And you can’t just play all the time and not take care of business, so there needs to be balance.  Keep your spirit strong and always lean on God!  Proverbs 11:1, “A just weight is the Lord’s delight.”  2 Samuel 23:5 (NKJV)  “…Yet He has made with me an everlasting covenant, Ordered in all things and secure…”

 

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