The 80/20 Relationship Rule?

Enjoying each other's company

Nobody’s perfect.  Life isn’t perfect.  It isn’t meant to be.  So what is the 80/20 relationship rule?  The 80/ 20 rule is this.  If you have someone to love and someone to love you back and overall you have a good relationship, cherish them and keep them.  Again not a perfect relationship, but about 80 percent is good with room for improvement always in an in imperfect life.

Problem is most people have unrealistic expectations when it comes to relationships.  They have this picture in their minds of a perfect physical specimen.  They have their long list of expectations and dreams of a fantasy relationship.  If this is you, you’re living in a dream.  Even when God pairs you with the person He has for you they still won’t be perfect.  Romans 3:10, “There is none perfect no not one.”  

A lot of women find themselves going from relationship to relationship looking for an ideal.  You, yourself are not perfect but hopefully you’ll find someone that’s perfect for you and you can grow in Christ together.  The 80/20 rule in relationships is fascinating and can help you understand what matters in a relationship.  However, it’s up to your judgement to find and focus on the right details.  And only give a passing glance at little annoyances that can crop up now and then.


3 Ways the 80/20 rule works in Relationships

  • Helps you to Focus on the positive in your partner instead of dwelling on the negative.
  • Helps you to keep relationship issues in perspective. What’s important, what’s not, and What’s the bigger picture?
  • Relationship experts say that 20% of the issues in a relationship cause 80% of the problems.  What this means is: Solomon 2:15,  “It’s the little foxes that spoil the vine.”  Over time little differences can crop up.  It could be as mundane as the types of movies you like, or where you’d like to vacation, you’re neat he’s messy.  It happens to all of us.  The best part is differences are repairable with a little compromise.  Don’t let little issues compound without communication.  These can lead to something bigger when they could have been avoided with a simple discussion.  Always explore the root causes of a situation. Focusing on the 20% of small frustrations can clear the most important of issues in a relationship.




Young couple sitting in Waikiki Beach. Leahi, also known as Diamond Head background.



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