Single Women: Show Him How to Treat You

As a woman of God self-respect permeates every area of your life. It has less to do with what you say and more to do with how you carry yourself, your actions and what you will and will not accept.  A woman who values herself is the ultimate catch!  Ground rules of a relationship need to be set in the beginning. What you tolerate in the dating phase or not sets the tone for the relationship.  Some women are puzzled by the notion that you can “show ” a man how to treat you.  How do you do that? By not accepting, unacceptable behaviors.

Men classify women.  For example: “This girl I can call anytime and she’ll come running”, or “This is the party girl”, or “this girl is not putting out until marriage”.  Women are scared to set boundaries for fear they will lose out on the man. If you do lose him, Good!! He didn’t deserve you anyway.  Because a man who wants you, you won’t be able to lose him because he’s not going anywhere.  A real man will see that you have standards and that will be both a comfort and challenge to him because he knows he has a high value woman on his hands!

6 Ways to Show Him how to Treat You

Your heart is worth guarding.  Protect yourself emotionally by having standards.  You want a man who will honor and value you as a woman and respect your decision not sleep with him before marriage.  Sleeping with him before commitment is not going to make him stay and it makes you no different from any other woman.  You must show him your difference!  It’s your difference that makes you unique not your sameness!

Your time is valuable.  Do not be available on a whim.  Demonstrate to him that you are a woman with your own life that runs on a schedule, i.e. work, school, and plans and time with you needs to be made in advance.

Your worth being properly courted.  If he’s the kind of guy that wants to put in as little effort as possible to see you, For instance Netflix and chill in which case there should be several dates before you let a man take you to his home.  It’s not your job to make it convenient for the man to date you.  It’s his job to make the effort!  Because the woman is the prize to be won!You should not be going to pick him up. The man assumes the responsibility when taking a woman out. When my husband and I met, he had to drive an hour to see me.  Was it convenient?  Probably not!   There were thousands of women where he lived if not millions, But a Man will do whatever it takes to get what he wants!!

Never choose a man based on his potential.  A man should be working when he approaches you.  In the garden Adam’s work was defined before God brought the woman to him.  Genesis 2:15: “The Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to work it and take care of it.”  If a man cannot define his work he has no business approaching you for a date. 

You commit, after he commits to you.  Are you the type of woman who is already committed before a commitment is made?  If he has not committed to you 100% yet then neither should you!  Then and only then, otherwise keep your options open!  Don’t be the type of woman that “needs” a man be the type of woman a man needs!

Be Willing to walk away.  This works in business  as well as relationships.  The Art of the deal is always be willing to walk away.  Willing to walk away from a situation that isn’t working.  Women make the mistake of holding on too long sometimes when clearly the man is not for you.  Let me give you a little psychology tip: the person who cares “less” about the relationship has the most power!  This should be you!  As the woman you are the prize, you are doing the “Choosing”.  And if you don’t find a pearl in  that oyster, open another oyster!  Simply put, one monkey doesn’t stop a show.  Keep it moving.  NOT giving in to a man’s desires puts you in the position of power.  When you do not consent to sex it puts you in the position of decision maker.  You want a man who values you as a woman, but you have to believe that you deserve it!


Author’s Note:  Welcome Summer SCW fans!  SCW Magazine will launch its Special Summer Edition 2017 Thursday June 1st.  The Summer edition will run for the month of June!

Coming up in June:

  • Getting Fit for summer 2017

  • Stylish Summer 2017

  • Summer date Night ideas 2017

  • Summer family Getaway 2017

  • Couples Summer getaway 2017

  • Father’s day celebration 2017

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