Smart and Savvy Couples have learned the habits of happily married couples. Mostly through trial and error. Some through reading books, attending seminars or observing other happily married couples. However there are some universal habits that happily married couples seem to practice for longevity. We will explore them in this post. Remember success in any endeavor especially marriage is intentional, and ongoing thus habits are formed!
10 Habits of a Happy Marriage
- Communication is the key. Sounds cliché but it’s absolutely essential to a healthy relationship. Granted some conversations are hard to have, but the more you practice speaking the truth in love the easier it will get, and the better your relationships will be. Often times you don’t need to make a huge issue out of things, “just have a conversation”, it’s the number one secret of a happy marriage.
- Intimacy does not necessarily mean sex. It could be sex. But true intimacy is time spent without distractions. It’s an intentional focus on one another. Intimacy is honest conversations, being transparent, it’s a quiet moment spent without conversations. Most importantly intimacy transcends the physical.
“Laughter does a heart good like a medicine,” Proverbs 17:22. My husband and I have so much fun! We love to laugh. It keeps you young and a number of studies have confirmed a happy soul leads to better overall health.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. There are big issues and there are little issues. Your job is to decide what’s important right now and what isn’t. Save your strength for the big issues. My husband has a saying “It’s not worth it!” So ask yourself is this really worth it? Keep the big picture in mind.
- Don’t make the mistake of thinking the grass is greener somewhere else. The grass is green where you water it. Your marriage is your garden. You have to water it, feed it, tend to it, give it lots of time and attention so that it will grow to its fullest potential.
- Know that only God can change another person. You can be the change that you want to see in your marriage. You do have the power to change yourself while praying for your mate. In what way can you be a better spouse?
- Be humble enough to accept help if needed. Lots of couples have saved their marriage through counseling. It’s important to remember we are imperfect people. We don’t always get it right. We owe it to ourselves and our spouse to do everything we can to the help the marriage. Forever is a long time.
- A crisis doesn’t mean the marriage is over. Crisis are like storms, to get through them you have to keep driving. A crisis can sometimes be a new beginning. It’s out of pain that great people and great marriages are born and survive.
- Don’t stop dating your spouse. Some couples say right now we can’t afford to go out. You can’t afford not to. If you’re on a budget, date night doesn’t have to expensive. Just be together as a couple. Some of my favorite dates when my husband was courting me was the beach. I loved taking a blanket to the beach and enjoying the evening breeze with a glass of wine! Or when we walked the Santa Monica pier and got hot dogs and nachos. Those were my favorite dates. Even more so than the fancy restaurants in California. Go for walk, go for a drive, just connect.
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