A Season Of Abundance and Fall Date Night Ideas

The official start of fall begins Monday September 23.  My favorite time of year!  Followed by my other favorite, Winter!  I actually love the entire season, the holidays are a wonderful time of year.  A new season to do it differently.  What will you do differently?  Change!  And Change for the better!  Thank God for change!  Change is spiritual, it’s a revival of the spirit.  Though the thunder rolls, and the lightning flashes, God is with you!  When God shines his light on you it’s an awakening.  Awakening is described as “an act of waking from sleep”.  An act or moment of becoming suddenly aware of something.  Coming into existence or awareness.  The Bible calls it Luke 15:17“He came to himself.”  Be encouraged!  Keep the faith and have a great week.  Don’t forget to take the time out to just enjoy life, Surround yourself with positive people, Enjoy fall date nights.

  • The Weather

  • Warming up by the fire

  • The colors of Fall

  • Harvest

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Celebration and Leisure:  We must take the time out to enjoy life with the ones we love.  Time to Fly!  We had such an amazing time on my husband’s birthday with the kids.  I surprised him with “iFLY” Indoor Skydiving/ flying.  It was hit!  He loved it!  The kids did better than me.

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Memorial Day Holiday and the start of Summer

Time to unwind! Memorial Day marks the unofficial start of Summer! Millions of hard-working Americans take vacation time during the summer months.  Did you know that rest is a mandate in the Bible?  Exodus 33:14 “My presence will go with you and I will give you rest.” God never intended for us to overwork and overwhelm ourselves.  He wants us to be productive.  However, the body must have rest.  I should take my own advice!  When I’m supposed to be resting, I’m thinking about all the things I need to do next instead of just living in the moment!

We shouldn’t let life just go rushing by without taking the time to enjoy our blessings and the people we love and those that love us!  Or simply just take time out for ourselves. So what are your plans for the summer?  Whether you’re looking for a family, couples, or singles getaway SCW has you covered with budget friendly affordable getaways for your fun in the sun!

  • Disney World Florida – experience the world of Disney along with Florida’s Epcot center in one magical adventure
  • Disneyland California – Who doesn’t want to visit the Happiest place on earth
  • Grand Canyon – Explore the beauty of this vast wonder
  • Grand Country Resort Water park Missouri -fun in the sun with water coasters and water rides and attractions
  • Texas Hill Country River region – your water tubing adventure awaits
  • Naples Ft Myers Florida – Swim and interact with the dolphins.

  • The Carribean – sun and sand await at affordable rates for “adults only” at all inclusive packages including air and hotel stay.
  • Pebble Beach Resorts – Your romantic seaside escape awaits
  • Panama City Beach, Florida – Lower Grand Lagoon Vacation rentals for under $100
  • Meritage Resort – Couples activities, classic Napa experiences, swimming, sports lounge, spa, elegant dining. Best internet rate guaranteed from$ 136.00/night


  • Summer Singles Cruises.com 7to10 night cruises all inclusive packages available sail the wide open seas and make a connection, romance is in the air!
  • Silversea luxury cruises – 25% off singles fare, destinations include US,Greece Puerto Rico, Brazil,
  • Turks and Caicos – Meet that special new someone aboard the high seas with other singles hoping to make a
  • Turtle Inn Belize – A secluded hideaway on a  sandy beach, pristine coral reef and tons of outdoor activities you may not have time to get around to all this destination has to offer.
  • Sylvia Beach Hotel – in Oregon- overlooking Sylvia beach perched atop a cliff with gorgeous panoramic views.

Verse of the day:

Honoring those who lost their lives defending the freedoms of this country, remember those who defended the freedoms we enjoy!

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Waiting for Sex ΙΙ & Welcome Spring

Welcome Spring!  If it has not yet warmed up where you are, be of good cheer, soon the cold days and cold nights will give way to warmer days and the newness of Life!  God is doing a new thing!  Now it shall spring forth!  So be hopeful and hold onto God’s unchanging hand!

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Follow up to “The Benefits to Women saving sex for Marriage”

If you missed February’s previous post, “The benefits of waiting for sex until Marriage for Women”, go back or click here and take a look as this is a follow up to that post.

Statistics: 56% of women report having sex on the the first date.  In the previous posts we discussed the benefits to women when they wait, among them are…………, To preserve your heart, your body, and your mind while keeping your spirituality intact and honoring God.  It’s absolutely the best way to go for women.  However, there is a cost to everything and keeping it 100% real, it’s a process.

Just like anything that’s worth having and SCW would be remiss if we didn’t explore the downsides of waiting as well as the process of meeting a new man and exactly how to establish those boundaries. Because what the woman is really doing in this scenario is she is maintaining control over the relationship.

Doesn’t that sound good? Wouldn’t you like to be the one in control for a change instead of giving it away, losing control and having no leverage.  Because it’s not just, “oh you slept with him”, no, you gave away your control, and now you’ll just have to wait and see how things turnout, the devil is a liar!

You are the woman, it ends and begins with you, you have control, a man can’t do what you won’t let him do.  You tell him no it’s no.  He has two options, respect you for valuing yourself over him, see you as wife material and get to know you better or step off!

In which case he was just sport fishing anyway. Let him go make somebody else’s life miserable.  In sport fishing men will catch a fish, take a picture to commemorate the moment and throw it back in the water, he’s done.  It’s not important to him to keep the fish.  The joy to him was catching it!  As an SCW woman you are a keeper!

Smart Tip of the Day:  A woman, per God’s design has a strong desire in her to fit.  She wants to fit in somewhere, preferably with the right man. Genesis 2:21 “And the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof” King James Version.  The problem is because of this God given nature she’ll try to fit where she doesn’t belong!  So the protection from God for his daughters is to have you be married!

Downside of Waiting

  • You’re going to have to wait too.  Yes, shocker!  Women enjoy and want sex too.  Just as you’re making him wait you’ll be waiting as well but in the end it will be worth it.  In the meantime we have to exercise what’s called self control.
  • Time. A man is able to reproduce well into his eighties!  That’s why a lot of men are in no hurry to get married, they know they have virtually their whole lives.  Not so with women.  Women have a time clock, a window of opportunity if you will.  So women have to play the cards they’ve been dealt.  Meaning you have to live life according to your situation.  So for instance if you have your eye on a certain guy you can’t sit around waiting for him.  You have to do what’s best for your life. Trust God’s timing!                ΙΙ

Choosing The right Mate

Ask yourself what is most important to me in a relationship and make a list.  Do it now. Think about what qualities work for you.  Every woman’s list will be different, however as a guide SCW has listed the top 5 non negotiables.

  1. Be equally yoked! Only date Christian men. You must be on the same page from the start.
  2. Productive and stable! Meaning he is working, has a career, his own place, (not living with mom) own a car.  An exception to this is if he is finishing up in school, completing a master’s degree for instance, but everything else in is intact.  You don’t want to meet a man that is “going to do such and such” you want to meet one that “IS” doing it!  Bottom line he is his own man!
  3. Compatible goals for family and children.  What are his ideas as far as family and children are concerned?  Do they match up with yours?
  4. Compatible goals for Lifestyle?  Does one of you like to spend money like a drunken sailor giving no thought to the future, and the other is conservative?  Or does one of you want a house with a white picket fence in the country and the other wants a high rise condo in the city?
    This is important because these are the types of issues that can cause disharmony and division in a marriage.  However through communication they can also be worked out!  Marriage is hard under the best circumstances even with the God given mate God has blessed you with.  So don’t make it harder on yourself then it has to be.  Talk it out.
  5. How Does he treat you? How do you feel when you are with him?  3 Key traits consistency, reliability and chemistry.

How do I establish a new relationship with a new man and communicate to him that I’m waiting?  Be reasonable, what you don’t want to do is tell him on your first date that your body clock is ticking and you want to get married ASAP, even if it’s true.  It’s just not good timing.  You want to be smart.

  • First reset your mind.  Next make a vow to yourself that from here forward every new man is in a probationary period in your life in order for you to find out if he is husband material.  Essentially you want to see if he is what you want.  You’ve got the schedule to keep!  You’re choosing him! This type of thinking may take a little getting use to and that’s okay.  You’ll get through this and come out better and more confident.   You’ve heard of Steve Harvey’s 90 day rule for dating.  Give this new guy 3 months to show you what he’s about.  It will all come out don’t worry and it might not even take long.  During this time you are observing how he treats you, his personality, etc…  Now very important, this seems obvious but I don’t want to leave any stone unturned.  Don’t tell him he’s in probation, you just maintain control.  Second important thing do not sleep with him during this, if you do, you lose control of the relationship and give away your power.  Do not sleep with him until he puts a ring on your finger and you get married.  That’s the deal and its non negotiable, take it or leave it.  Trust me he’ll be enjoying the chase. The man God has for you will meet those standards, he’ll wait.  But you have to know that you are worth it.  You are the prize to be sought after.


  • Never think that you can change a man!  First, only God can change people.  You don’t want a fixer upper, you want a house that’s turn key ready.


  • Don’t ignore red flags.  Sometimes in wanting things to work out, women can ignore red flags. That’s a mistake it will only comeback to haunt you.  When people let you know who they are believe them.  Your only job is to observe and along the way you’re finding out what you want and what you don’t.

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Waiting For Sex until Marriage and the Benefits to Women

Smart Christian Women know that they are valuable!  A woman conveys her worth to a man when she makes him wait.  Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.  How many times have you given your heart and body to a man only to have him ghost you?  The woman is left devastated and broken.  Or worse you spend years with a man, living with him giving him all the benefits of marriage, only to have it end.  Eventually she heals, moves on to another man and repeats the same scenario.

Only because she mistakenly believes that that’s the way to get a man to stay.  The devil is a liar!  Don’t let him fool you!  You know for yourself that doesn’t work because you’ve tested it.  Like a loving father God wants to protect his daughters from from guys like the last guy who broke your heart.

He has given you something sacred, special, life giving, to be shared with your husband in the bonds of matrimony.  He wants you to have the security and stability you crave!  It’s time for women to have more satisfying relationships!

But you must begin to think differently and handle men differently!  The man that’s so-called scared off by you waiting until marriage is NOT the guy for you anyway!  He’s been sent by the enemy to seduce and distract you from getting the real life that God has for you.

But I know you’re smarter than that and that’s why the bible says “Wisdom is better than silver and Gold!”  You know what a man likes almost as much as SEX?  A Challenge!!!!  They are competition driven. Sports, games, business, and yes women.  The problem is there’s not much challenge left with women today.

Sex is Easy! There has to be something that distinguishes you from OTHER women!  And if he wants you he will rise to the challenge.  When my husband and I met and started dating he wanted to wait for marriage, it was his idea.  He’s a Christian man with Christian values, and I really admired that.

That’s how I knew he was the one.  He wanted me to know he was the real deal.  It was an awesome courtship and the best experience getting to know each other, knowing where the relationship was headed.  It was wonderful to know I was with the man God had for me!

When a man is willing to wait and honor the woman and honor the relationship, it is a gift from God!  Granted men like that are rare but that doesn’t mean you stop valuing yourself or lower your standards.  The right man will meet you on your level.

Sex inside marriage is the most amazing sexual experience of my entire Life!!  I thought it was just me having unbelievable sex.  It turns out there are research studies like the report from the “Journal Of Family Psychology” that says “those who waited for marriage were happier with the quality of sex in their relationship.”  Remember, “Love is Patient, Love is kind it does not insist on it’s own way” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.

8 Benefits of delaying sex until marriage for the Woman

  • It keeps God at the center of your relationship. You honor God with your relationship and He in turn blesses you.
  • You know you’re with the man God has for you
  • You can experience true love, security and stability, within the bonds of matrimony
  • Experience heightened pleasure and sexual freedom
  • You Have a solid foundation from which to build on
  • You guard your heart and emotions from men and stop suffering heartbreak
  • You maintain your dignity and respect for your body
  • You experience The Ultimate sexual experience in love

Smart Tip Of the Day: You will never be truly satisfied in the lusts of the flesh, because it’s not God’s way.  Your Best sexual experience, ultimate expression of love, and most satisfying relationship is waiting for you inside marriage!

God’s Women deserve the Best and women all over the world are learning that God’s way is the best Way!  My prayer for SCW women is that all of you will experience the best God has for you in every aspect of your life, love, relationships, and sexual expression.  Amen.

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Valentine’s Day, Celebration of Love

GOD Is Love, and we love because he first loved us, 1 John 4:19.  First love God, then love yourself, and then allow God to bring the right love into your life if he hasn’t already.  For single women, could it be that God is still working on YOU to get you ready to receive the love he has for you?

Often times God has to prepare us for his blessings. God had to do a lot of work on me to prepare me to receive a Husband.  I was fiercely independent as a single lady and it was difficult for me to open up to a man and allow myself to be vulnerable and experience true intimacy.

I had trust issues.  I had lost my mother and was very much walled up emotionally, on and on.  I’m here to tell you that all things are possible With God!!  But you really have to strip yourself down and humble yourself and be honest with God and be serious about your relationship with him.

He can read your heart! He knows when you’re serious and when your not.  If you’re one of those Sunday morning Christians trying to stay in the shallow end your wasting time!!!  You have to come out into the deep!!!!  And get ready for a haul.

It starts with your relationship with him, work on that first and he will give you the desires of your heart! The bible is clear “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added onto you!”

If God has blessed you with a spouse Cherish them, love them, and don’t make the mistake of taking anything for granted.  We need to honor God’s blessings, because the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.  However, one thing is clear his love for us, and as a Loving father he wants the best for us.  He is the creator of LOVE!

Tip of the day:  Single Ladies.  You are daughters of the King!  You are a child of the most high God!  You deserve the best and do not settle for less!  It’s not lowering your standards to come down to his level it’s about bringing him up to yours.
But it’s not your job to change a man and don’t try because the man God has for you will come equipped! He will not be a fixer upper!  Do you not know what the bible says about you?  It says nothing that a man has, nothing that he can acquire can compare to YOU!
And I want you to think of yourselves from this day forward as that pearl of great price!  Proverbs 8:11 “For wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire compares with her.”

Tip of the day: Married Ladies.  To achieve a higher level of intimacy when spending time with your husband, do the unthinkable and experiment by both of you turning off your phones!  Not silence or vibrate, OFF!  This signifies that this is time set aside for us to connect as a married couple and we will be totally in the moment with no distractions!  Just for this moment keep conversation to only about the two of you.  No everyday stress talk, bills, kids, problems,etc….. concentrate solely on the two of you for that moment.  Even if you are tempted to talk about other things.. RESIST just for this moment.  Married Couples really do need to have some time that is all their own!!!!! Practice it over and over!

Sorry guys the busy week kind of got away from me but as promised you can click here for your Valentines Day ideas whether your doing frugal, or fancy you’ll be sure to have fun!

Click the link here for SCW’s Valentines Day Ideas!

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”1 Corinthians 13:4-8


“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”Romans 12:9-10

  • “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”Ephesians 4:2-3
  • “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”Proverbs 31:10-12
  • “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”Colossians 3:18-19


  • “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”1 John 4:7

What is your Love Language?  Do you know the love language of your sweetheart?  people have a specific love language that appeals to them most effectively. Some people have more than one. Knowing the love language of your sweetheart can help you to communicate more effectively with them.

Happy Valentines Day to my Handsome Husband.  I found the one my heart Loves, Song of Solomon 3:4

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Submission and Straight Talk for Christian Couples and Singles

We have a special treat for your weekend reading and listening pleasure.  A double post about the hot topic of submission and “What men wish women knew” and “What women wish men knew”. Enjoy.  When a woman submits to her husband, she is actually submitting to God!  God set the man as leader and a woman can trust that God is good.  She also knows that nothing escapes God’s notice and a wicked man will be held accountable for his actions.  Did you know that God cares about women so much that if a husband doesn’t treat her right his prayers will not be answered!

I’ll prove it to you:
1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”  So God has you covered ladies!  However, a submissive wife is not relegated to idly sitting by while her husband makes all the family decisions.  In a healthy marriage, husband and wife work as a team.  When a decision cannot be jointly agreed upon, the leader makes it, knowing he is responsible foremost unto God for that decision.  He is commanded as leader to make good decisions for the family.

The Healthy Submissive

The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendships she makes over the years.

The healthy submissive is a giver. She often needs help to ration herself because her impulses nearly always lead her to want to do good for others.

The healthy submissive is capable of intense joy, especially in the context of a sustaining relationship.

The healthy submissive finds significant relaxation when properly related. She is at ease in that place.

The healthy submissive has a fluidity of self, a flexibility that enables her to adapt to changing circumstances

The healthy submissive has no more than the usual cultural conflicts about her body, and its goodness and beauty.

The healthy submissive takes pride in her accomplishments.
The healthy submissive accepts herself as she is, knowing that while her culture values independence and self sufficiency, she has strong dependency needs and that there is no inherent “wrongness” about those needs.

The healthy submissive, in accepting herself “as is” is tolerant of others. But neither will she allow anyone to tell her what her truth should be.

The healthy submissive has a reasonable self concept, aware of her difficulties as well as her strengths.

The healthy submissive hunger to be the object of an intense and penetrating understanding. When her nature is understood and she is held in a loving and firm frame, her devotion is almost limitless. The healthy submissive has an enormous capacity for devotion, from which springs her service.

Ever wonder what’s on the minds of  single and married Christian men and women today?
I’m excited to bring to you, “The Chat”, a Christian show that features open, honest dialogue from a Christian perspective.  Find out what men think, and what they wish women knew.  What sends single men running in the other direction, what attracts him to you, how can we build better relationships.

Learn about everything from submission to leadership in the home.  I thought the posts complement one another and should go together.  Of course not to be outdone “What women wished men knew”.  It’s both for couples and singles alike, you are sure to enjoy, “What men wished women knew”.  My advice to ladies is really listen in on what the men have to say and then make mental adjustments accordingly.  In order to make changes we have to first understand.

On a personal note!

  • Prayer works!

SCW wants to lift up a fellow believer, Kirk and his family in prayer!  We understand that you don’t know him, but he is richly loved by us.  He’s battling a serious illness, and if any of you have family members or friends that have gone through this you know how tough it can be on the entire family.  So as a connected family of believers we ask that you pray for him as we do for you.  May God bless your hearts.

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Husband, Father, Servant

A husband and a father is a man’s highest calling.  What is the role of a Godly man?  How does a Christian woman recognize him when she sees him?  Scripture describes the man as leader.

1 Timothy 3:1-16,  “Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”

The man is to show honor to his wife found in,

1 Peter 3:7, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”  The man, the husband, father, and servant leader is held accountable to God.  When Adam and Eve first sinned in the garden, God came looking for Adam!  The one He left in charge.  Adam blamed the woman.  That was unacceptable to God and in Genesis 3:23,  “The Lord God banished Adam from the Garden to work the ground from which he had been taken.”

Likewise wives are called to submit to their husbands.

Yes submit.  But not to just any man, a godly man, that’s taking his direction from God because he’s only as good as the resources he draws from.  I know Some women don’t like to hear that, however the bible is clear, and God does not change!  “He’s the same today yesterday and forever more.”
Malachi 3:6“I, the lord your God do not change!”  Colossians 3:18“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in to the lord.”  Even Nature knows a female needs a strong man.

When eagles get ready to mate, and by the way eagles can only mate with other eagles, and not just any eagle, the most capable eagle.  Able to sustain a wife and family.  So the ritual goes as follows; the female eagle flies to the highest peak, and drops a stick mid-air, the male eagle capable of getting the stick is the one who gets to mate with the female eagle, sound easy?  Not so, there can be only one winner.

My husband is a Christian man, a praying man, he’s also a good money manager.  He’s always thinking about and preparing for our needs months down the road.  He’s very rational, reasonable, and self-controlled.  We pray together almost daily, usually in the morning to pray for our day.  We take our concerns to God!  Because worrying is no good!  I need him to be strong for me!  The bible says you’ll know him by his fruit!  He told me when we were dating I want to honor you, I don’t want sex until we’re married!  I could see that he was a very blessed man!  And a true Christian that practices what he preaches.  I said to him you’re the real deal baby!

Of course there were other things, like the way he treated me.  He knows HOW to treat a woman!  He treats me in such a way that I can’t help but surrender to the masculine energy!!!  He has a good heart and sincerely wants to do his best!  If a man does not do his best toward his woman his prayers are hindered 1 Peter 3:7  As a man do you ever wonder why your prayers are not being answered?  It’s because God is watching, and He knows the intents of the heart.  However, “the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.”  God will lead him to success, prosperity, good health, a good woman,etc….  There’s nothing sexier than a man on top of his game!


3 John 1:2, “Beloved, I wish above all things for you to prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospers!”

Authors Note:  I would be remiss if I did not tell you that these types of men are rare these days!  They are NOT around every corner!  He’s a rare and special find.  The kind of man only God can bring!  So “be anxious for nothing but by prayer and supplication let your request be made known to God.”  Then prepare yourself to be found.  Work on yourself!!!!!  Whatever areas in your life need fixing, whether it be the inside, the outside, both!  Ask God to show you what needs to be fixed in your life.  I had a lot that needed to be worked out before receiving my husband, then God proved to me His word.  “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of these things shall be added!!!!!”  He did indeed add everything I needed when I looked to HIM!!!!!!

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