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Submission and Straight Talk for Christian Couples and Singles

We have a special treat for your weekend reading and listening pleasure.  A double post about the hot topic of submission and “What men wish women knew” and “What women wish men knew”. Enjoy.  When a woman submits to her husband, she is actually submitting to God!  God set the man as leader and a woman can trust that God is good.  She also knows that nothing escapes God’s notice and a wicked man will be held accountable for his actions.  Did you know that God cares about women so much that if a husband doesn’t treat her right his prayers will not be answered!

I’ll prove it to you:
1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”  So God has you covered ladies!  However, a submissive wife is not relegated to idly sitting by while her husband makes all the family decisions.  In a healthy marriage, husband and wife work as a team.  When a decision cannot be jointly agreed upon, the leader makes it, knowing he is responsible foremost unto God for that decision.  He is commanded as leader to make good decisions for the family.

The Healthy Submissive

The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendships she makes over the years.

The healthy submissive is a giver. She often needs help to ration herself because her impulses nearly always lead her to want to do good for others.

The healthy submissive is capable of intense joy, especially in the context of a sustaining relationship.

The healthy submissive finds significant relaxation when properly related. She is at ease in that place.

The healthy submissive has a fluidity of self, a flexibility that enables her to adapt to changing circumstances

The healthy submissive has no more than the usual cultural conflicts about her body, and its goodness and beauty.

The healthy submissive takes pride in her accomplishments.
The healthy submissive accepts herself as she is, knowing that while her culture values independence and self sufficiency, she has strong dependency needs and that there is no inherent “wrongness” about those needs.

The healthy submissive, in accepting herself “as is” is tolerant of others. But neither will she allow anyone to tell her what her truth should be.

The healthy submissive has a reasonable self concept, aware of her difficulties as well as her strengths.

The healthy submissive hunger to be the object of an intense and penetrating understanding. When her nature is understood and she is held in a loving and firm frame, her devotion is almost limitless. The healthy submissive has an enormous capacity for devotion, from which springs her service.
 

Ever wonder what’s on the minds of  single and married Christian men and women today?
I’m excited to bring to you, “The Chat”, a Christian show that features open, honest dialogue from a Christian perspective.  Find out what men think, and what they wish women knew.  What sends single men running in the other direction, what attracts him to you, how can we build better relationships.

Learn about everything from submission to leadership in the home.  I thought the posts complement one another and should go together.  Of course not to be outdone “What women wished men knew”.  It’s both for couples and singles alike, you are sure to enjoy, “What men wished women knew”.  My advice to ladies is really listen in on what the men have to say and then make mental adjustments accordingly.  In order to make changes we have to first understand.

On a personal note!

  • Prayer works!

SCW wants to lift up a fellow believer, Kirk and his family in prayer!  We understand that you don’t know him, but he is richly loved by us.  He’s battling a serious illness, and if any of you have family members or friends that have gone through this you know how tough it can be on the entire family.  So as a connected family of believers we ask that you pray for him as we do for you.  May God bless your hearts.

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Husband, Father, Servant

A husband and a father is a man’s highest calling.  What is the role of a Godly man?  How does a Christian woman recognize him when she sees him?  Scripture describes the man as leader.

1 Timothy 3:1-16,  “Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”

The man is to show honor to his wife found in,

1 Peter 3:7, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”  The man, the husband, father, and servant leader is held accountable to God.  When Adam and Eve first sinned in the garden, God came looking for Adam!  The one He left in charge.  Adam blamed the woman.  That was unacceptable to God and in Genesis 3:23,  “The Lord God banished Adam from the Garden to work the ground from which he had been taken.”

Likewise wives are called to submit to their husbands.

Yes submit.  But not to just any man, a godly man, that’s taking his direction from God because he’s only as good as the resources he draws from.  I know Some women don’t like to hear that, however the bible is clear, and God does not change!  “He’s the same today yesterday and forever more.”
Malachi 3:6“I, the lord your God do not change!”  Colossians 3:18“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in to the lord.”  Even Nature knows a female needs a strong man.

When eagles get ready to mate, and by the way eagles can only mate with other eagles, and not just any eagle, the most capable eagle.  Able to sustain a wife and family.  So the ritual goes as follows; the female eagle flies to the highest peak, and drops a stick mid-air, the male eagle capable of getting the stick is the one who gets to mate with the female eagle, sound easy?  Not so, there can be only one winner.

My husband is a Christian man, a praying man, he’s also a good money manager.  He’s always thinking about and preparing for our needs months down the road.  He’s very rational, reasonable, and self-controlled.  We pray together almost daily, usually in the morning to pray for our day.  We take our concerns to God!  Because worrying is no good!  I need him to be strong for me!  The bible says you’ll know him by his fruit!  He told me when we were dating I want to honor you, I don’t want sex until we’re married!  I could see that he was a very blessed man!  And a true Christian that practices what he preaches.  I said to him you’re the real deal baby!

Of course there were other things, like the way he treated me.  He knows HOW to treat a woman!  He treats me in such a way that I can’t help but surrender to the masculine energy!!!  He has a good heart and sincerely wants to do his best!  If a man does not do his best toward his woman his prayers are hindered 1 Peter 3:7  As a man do you ever wonder why your prayers are not being answered?  It’s because God is watching, and He knows the intents of the heart.  However, “the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.”  God will lead him to success, prosperity, good health, a good woman,etc….  There’s nothing sexier than a man on top of his game!

 

3 John 1:2, “Beloved, I wish above all things for you to prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospers!”

Authors Note:  I would be remiss if I did not tell you that these types of men are rare these days!  They are NOT around every corner!  He’s a rare and special find.  The kind of man only God can bring!  So “be anxious for nothing but by prayer and supplication let your request be made known to God.”  Then prepare yourself to be found.  Work on yourself!!!!!  Whatever areas in your life need fixing, whether it be the inside, the outside, both!  Ask God to show you what needs to be fixed in your life.  I had a lot that needed to be worked out before receiving my husband, then God proved to me His word.  “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of these things shall be added!!!!!”  He did indeed add everything I needed when I looked to HIM!!!!!!

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Dating online for Single Christian Women

Love it or hate it online dating is here to stay.  Online dating has lost its’ stigma and 44% of Americans say that online dating is the way to go.  Christian dating sites have doubled in usage.  God is still sovereign over your relational life no matter which course you take to meet a potential spouse.  God can have  you meet your spouse anywhere.  Online dating is simply a technique of the times in which we live that allows us to meet people we may not otherwise get to meet.

However, whether online or not you still need to be careful about whom you choose to date.  The good thing about online dating is you get to browse profiles privately and without obligation.  Christian women have met their spouses online.  The complaint that I hear most often from women is that they don’t often get second dates.  Why is that?  A big part of a first date is obviously communication.  You have conversation to get to know someone.  I think this is where the breakdown comes, in conversation.   For example, if you’re a woman who talks about yourself through the whole date never letting a man get a word in edgewise he’s probably not going to want to see you again.

What a man should see on a date with a Christian woman is a potential wife.  Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” That means you have to be wife material when he finds you.  What does that look like?

  • She’s a Christian like him and they are equally yoked together.  (Shares your value systems and beliefs.)
  • You have common interests.  For example you both like to travel.
  • She makes you a better man.  A good woman brings out the best in a man
  • She should have strength of character and carry herself with confidence.  She’s not afraid of losing a man because she makes him wait for intimacy.  A good Christian man will be in agreement with this.  This is the way I knew I had a true Christian man in my life with my husband.
  • She is smart.  She’s able to have interesting conversation along with ideas, opinions.
  • She’s attractive!  She’s a 10 in your eyes.  Not because she looks like a model necessarily, she can, but what’s important is she is beautiful inside as well.  Personality can make or break attraction big time!  Men have reported dating hot girls that ended up being ugly by the end of the date.  This is important to a man of substance!!  A man without substance is happy to sleep with you and then ghost you.
  • She loves you unconditionally.  The quickest way to ruin a relationship is to try to change a man.  He needs someone to love him for him.  None of us are perfect and that’s what we all want is to be loved for who we are.

 

  1.  Questions about his previous relationships!  This is a definite no-no.  Stay firmly in the present and future.
  2.  How many girlfriends have you had?  Nothing is more dull and boring then your failed past relationships.
  3.  How much money do you make?  Makes you sound shallow and superficial.  His situation will speak for itself
  4.  When does he want to get married and have kids and how many?
  5.  Any intimate questions about sex, it’s too early for this.
  6.  Avoid asking him to tell you his entire life story.  Save some for future dates, if any.

Dating tips for the single Christian Woman.

  • Keep conversation light. You can ask him things like what do you like to do for fun?
  • Meet him at the designated place for your first date, you drive separately.
  • You can talk about your careers.  What’s one thing you like the most about your job?  What is the thing you like the least about it?
  • The goal should be fun, light and enjoyable.

 

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SCW’s All-Time Viewer Favorites

Welcome new followers!  SCW’s popularity has grown tremendously.  Praise God for each person we’ve touched, for every article you’ve found interesting, for every scripture that has given you peace!  We’ve compiled a list of viewers statistical favorite posts.  We invite you to read and enjoy and always if you have a comment, we’d love to hear it.  This post marks our 800th POST!  Amazing even to us.  Time has just flown by.  SCW is your source for contemporary Christian reading that speaks in a modern way to our everyday lives, which uplifts and strengthens our spirit  through the word of God!

 

  • Faith

All of the blog post titles below are clickable links to the original posts.  Enjoy!

Spiritual Awakening

Called to be a light in a dark world

What does it mean to be a Christian Woman?

The Armour of God

Strengthening your family bond through Christ

How do I become a Christian?

Feeding your Spirit

The struggles of Christianity, Mind, Body and Spirit

Praise and Worship

5 Benefits of Praying Together as a Couple 

Holy Land Experience

Encouraging verses to comfort you in tough times

Beyond a Sunday morning Christian

Making your Exit, (Leaving behind what is not of God)

Spending Quiet Time with God

Being Grounded in Faith

Learning Spiritual discernment

Divine Healing

Living a Transformed Life

 

  • Married Women

 

 

Understanding Submission

Becoming a Godly Wife who honors her Husband

The Sexually Confident Wife

Balancing your role as a Wife and Mom

Submissive Wife Committed Husband

Being the Best helpmate to your Husband

Forgiveness and Trust in Marriage

Secret Sex lives of Conservative Christian Woman

The Color of Love, (Christian Interracial Marriages)

30 Days to Better Sex, (A journey through Intimacy)

Life after Divorce

Romance and Leisure for the Married Couple

Marriage Retreats

An Exceptional Wife

The Irresistible Wife

Showing Respect to your Husband

How to “Think Together” in Marriage

Keeping Love Alive after Baby Arrives

Keeping Passion Alive after Years of Marriage

Happy Wedding Anniversary 2018 to my Amazing Husband. Your Love is a Blessing.

  • Single Women

 

How to get past looks when Finding Love

Trusting God’s Timing for Christian Singles

Top Cities to meet Single Christian Men

Are you Dating a Gentlemen?

Destigmatizing Online Dating

Single Christian Women Love Yourselves

Christian Dating Principles – Waiting on the Man God has for You

10 Tips for Finding Mr. right

Handling Break ups for the Single Woman

Dating Guidelines For Singles

A Guide to First Dates

Can a Christian Woman be a Cougar? (#1 post)

Single Ladies: How to Attract the Guy You Want

10 Mistakes Women make in Online Dating Profiles

Where to Find Single Christian Men

8 Ways you’re Killing a Man’s Interest in You

It’s a Great Time to be a Single Woman over 40

Single Women: Show Him how to Treat You

  • Teen Girls

Christian Girls who become Christian Women

Teen Scene – How to Be the most Popular Girl in School

Teen girls, What young Christian Men Think About You

Youth on Fire

  • Professional Christian Women & Eutrapeurialship

21 Ways to God Given Wealth and Success

Women in Business & Entrepreneurship

Spotlight on Christian Business Women

Habits of Successful Women

Supplementing your Income with Side Jobs Online

Home based Business Ideas

Christian Women Entrepreneurs

Dressing for Professional Success

Couples (Dating, Engaged, long-term)

Ladies I want to emphasize what being a couple means, and what it should mean for a Christian Woman.  A Smart Christian woman Does not just aimlessly date without purpose with just any man who asks her out (as if).  No, a smart Christian woman wants a Godly man, the Christian man who god has for her.  Which means she only accepts date with men that are on the same page as her as far as her beliefs and values (A Christian man).  A man who has created a future for himself, is stable, and able to support a wife and family and wants to settle down.

That doesn’t mean on  the first date she tells him she wants to get married and have kids by next week!   Through conversation and getting to know someone it won’t take long at all to find out where this man’s head is at!  So you do want a man who is looking for that long-term relationship that leads to a life partnership!  So he’s either that type of man or he is  not, but in any case life is short and a smart woman doesn’t waste time with men who aren’t suitable for her ie unequally yoked!

5 Benefits of Praying Together as a Couple

How to tell if you’re in a Codependent Relationship

Couples Recharge

Couples Date Night at Home

The 80/20 Relationship Rule

Letting go of Bad Relationships

Fight the good fight turn Spats into Solutions

Couples Summer Date Night Ideas

Top Romantic Summer Getaways for Couples 2017

Healthy Relationships

  • Fitness

Best Workout Apps on your Phone

7 Habits of Healthy Women

Fit and Healthy

Smart and Fit

Healthy Habits of People who Stay Fit

7 Tips to Toned, tight, fit, and Amazing Inspiration

Eat Right get Slim

Fit Moms equals Hot Mommas

How to get your Body ready for Summer in 6 Weeks

  • All Women Category

How to take the stress out of Homemaking for the modern Woman

7 Habits to reclaim your Peace of Mind

Looking great at any age, 20s, 30s,40s, 50; and Beyond

Conquering feelings of being Overwhelmed

Purpose Driven Woman

Smart Women Smart Money

Maintaining Respect in Relationships

How Christian Women can Mentor and be Mentored

Smart Travel

Fun Frugal Date Nights

Love vs. Lust

Changing your Thinking

Successful Women Maintaining Relationships

Home buying tips for your First Home

Using Wisdom to make Decisions

Leadership and Masculine Energy

A Woman’s Confidence is Key

Law of Attraction

  • Overcoming Obstacles and Fear

Overcoming Social Anxiety Disorder

Overcoming Addictions and Bad Habits

Suicide and Depression

Overcoming Grief

Breaking the cycle of Physical and Sexual Domestic Violence

How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

Overcoming Depression

Coping with Life’s transitions

Domestic Violence

How to Heal a Broken Heart

Building Strong Families in Christ

Encouragement for Difficult Times

Coping with Loneliness During the Holidays

Remembering Loved ones in Heaven

 I’m a Smart Christian Woman

I’m a Smart Christian Woman

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Spring Date Night ideas 2018

Time to enjoy the outdoors with that special someone.  There’s no better time than spring to enjoy the fresh air, and the beautiful flowers in bloom.  Having fun with activities, and creating memories.  Spring is the perfect time to enjoy great dates!

 

10 Spring Date Night Ideas

 

Pack a picnic basket and blanket, find a quiet spot to picnic in the park.  My husband and I have actually packed a lunch and grilled at the picnic site.  There were grills already there.  But you could bring your own small grill.  He loves to grill steaks, and they’re delicious!

Most cities have a “painting for couples and singles studio”.  It’s an activity meant to be interactive and fun with the goal of building team work and bringing you closer together.  Who cares that you can’t paint, the point of it is to spend time.

Kill 3 birds with one stone. Go  for a hike with your sweetie.  You’ll get exercise, explore the scenery and spend time with your significant other.  It’s a great way to reconnect.

Find an outdoor concert and double date. Outdoor concerts are fun and easy to find online and best of all most are free.

Find a cozy spot and hang out at your favorite park.  Stop and smell the roses.

Dine at a restaurant that has an outdoor Patio.  Take advantage of the opportunity to dine outside.

Not just a movie, try a 3D experience! love 3D it’s my favorite type of movie.  Action films are especially enjoyable with 3D you feel like you’re part of the action,.

Get dressed to the nines and  try at new restaurant that neither of you has been to.  There’s a tendency with couples to do the tried and true things.  However trying new things brings with it it’s own excitement.

Road Trip! Gas and Go, wherever the spirit leads.  May only be an hour or two away.  The objective is to have fun.

Begin or end your evening watching a beautiful sunset.

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Be the Woman God Created you to be!

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I want to acknowledge the new followers of SCW!  God Bless you!  We’re glad you’re here, and we feel just as blessed to have you here.  May the peace of God carry you through your journey.  My family and I are praying for you, and ask that you pray for us.  As believers we’re all in this together. This is a place you can come and feed your faith enjoy modernized writing that reflects the times we are living in, and feel connected to like minded individuals.  Stay Strong!  We can do this, together!

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Winter Date Night & Valentines’s Day Ideas 2018

When budgeting for the essentials, it can be a challenge to try to add some fun and recreation into the mix.  Luckily date nights don’t have to be super expensive to be fun.  The bigger picture is you have someone to share life with and that’s pretty awesome!  You can go to the most expensive restaurant in town with a complete jerk!  That’s no fun.  The fun is in finding some special to spend time with, though hard as it may be a times.  However keep a positive an optimistic heart and you’ll attract the same!  Browse SCW’s list of free and frugal dates and perhaps it will inspire some ideas of your own!

Love is in the Air!  Time to celebrate the gift of love.  For me it’s not about gifts or doing some big exciting thing although that’s great too.  The luxury of having someone in your life is the real gift.  Having your spouse focus their undivided attention on you is sexy and romantic!

Valentines  Day Gift Baskets are a great gift idea for him or her.  Buying one as is fine.  Or you can be creative and put whatever you want in it to tailor it for a male or female.  Michael’s craft store has everything you need to DIY.  They have a variety of baskets to choose from, ribbons, fillers, it’s a fun little project.

Make reservations for a romantic night away from home.  Changing your environment and breaking routine from time to time can really spice things up.

Couples Massage. There’s something to be said for slowing down and being in the moment.

Commemorative Pillow Keepsake. Simply find a store that does engraving and show your valentine how thoughtful you are.

Not just a restaurant, but a Romantic restaurant , that’s dimly lit and sets the tone.

A private dining room.  Funny story, My husband and I were having dinner at a very elegant restaurant.  There were a trio of women near our table and they had been drinking a lot and were kinda loud.  He wasn’t going to stand for that, he got us a private dining room, very romantic.  I’m sure those rooms book up fast on holidays so book it now!

Turn your bedroom into cupid’s love nest. Your valentine will feel special that you took the time to do this, it shows your thoughtfulness.

Make a romantic dinner and have a quiet evening at home.

Flowers and Candy from a loving spouse still works!

After a romantic dinner warm up by the fire and have an intimate relaxing moment with desert.

Decadent desert.  It’s okay it’s Valentine’s Day.

No date tonight?  No worries, better to have no date then the wrong date.  Besides when the right one comes along it will be totally worth the wait.  Your Father in Heaven Loves you!  And unlike people, He loves you when you’re up and when your down.  He’s the one that can fix the broken places, heal your heart, and bring you the soul mate that you desire.  Psalms 37:4 “God will give you the desires of your heart!”

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We love our readers and followers, Happy Valentines day to you all from SCW

 

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