Waiting For Sex until Marriage and the Benefits to Women

Smart Christian Women know that they are valuable!  A woman conveys her worth to a man when she makes him wait.  Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.  How many times have you given your heart and body to a man only to have him ghost you?  The woman is left devastated and broken.  Or worse you spend years with a man, living with him giving him all the benefits of marriage, only to have it end.  Eventually she heals, moves on to another man and repeats the same scenario.

Only because she mistakenly believes that that’s the way to get a man to stay.  The devil is a liar!  Don’t let him fool you!  You know for yourself that doesn’t work because you’ve tested it.  Like a loving father God wants to protect his daughters from from guys like the last guy who broke your heart.

He has given you something sacred, special, life giving, to be shared with your husband in the bonds of matrimony.  He wants you to have the security and stability you crave!  It’s time for women to have more satisfying relationships!

But you must begin to think differently and handle men differently!  The man that’s so-called scared off by you waiting until marriage is NOT the guy for you anyway!  He’s been sent by the enemy to seduce and distract you from getting the real life that God has for you.

But I know you’re smarter than that and that’s why the bible says “Wisdom is better than silver and Gold!”  You know what a man likes almost as much as SEX?  A Challenge!!!!  They are competition driven. Sports, games, business, and yes women.  The problem is there’s not much challenge left with women today.

Sex is Easy! There has to be something that distinguishes you from OTHER women!  And if he wants you he will rise to the challenge.  When my husband and I met and started dating he wanted to wait for marriage, it was his idea.  He’s a Christian man with Christian values, and I really admired that.

That’s how I knew he was the one.  He wanted me to know he was the real deal.  It was an awesome courtship and the best experience getting to know each other, knowing where the relationship was headed.  It was wonderful to know I was with the man God had fore me!

When a man is willing to wait and honor the woman and honor the relationship, it is a gift from God!  Granted men like that are rare but that doesn’t mean you stop valuing yourself or lower your standards.  The right man will meet you on your level.

Sex inside marriage is the most amazing sexual experience of my entire Life!!  I thought I was just having unbelievable sex.  It turns out there are research studies like the report from the “Journal Of Family Psychology” that says “those who waited for marriage were happier with the quality of sex in their relationship.”  Remember, “Love is Patient, Love is kind it does not insist on it’s own way” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.

8 Benefits of delaying sex until marriage for the Woman

  • It keeps God at the center of your relationship. You honor God with your relationship and He in turn blesses you.
  • You know your with the man God has for you
  • You can experience true love, security and stability, within the bonds of matrimony
  • Experience heightened pleasure and sexual freedom
  • You Have a solid foundation from which to build on
  • You guard your heart and emotions from men and stop suffering heartbreak
  • You maintain your dignity and respect for your body
  • You experience The Ultimate sexual experience in love

Smart Tip Of the Day: You will never be truly satisfied in the lusts of the flesh, because it’s not God’s way.  Your Best sexual experience, ultimate expression of love, and most satisfying relationship is waiting for you inside marriage!

God’s Women deserve the Best and women all over the world are learning that God’s way is the best Way!  My prayer for SCW women is that all of you will experience the best God has for you in every aspect of your life, love, relationships, and sexual expression.  Amen.

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Your Latter Days Shall be better than your Former Days

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Valentine’s Day, Celebration of Love

GOD Is Love, and we love because he first loved us, 1 John 4:19.  First love God, then love yourself, and then allow God to bring the right love into your life if he hasn’t already.  For single women, could it be that God is still working on YOU to get you ready to receive the love he has for you?

Often times God has to prepare us for his blessings. God had to do a lot of work on me to prepare me to receive a Husband.  I was fiercely independent as a single lady and it was difficult for me to open up to a man and allow myself to be vulnerable and experience true intimacy.

I had trust issues.  I had lost my mother and was very much walled up emotionally, on and on.  I’m here to tell you that all things are possible With God!!  But you really have to strip yourself down and humble yourself and be honest with God and be serious about your relationship with him.

He can read your heart! He knows when you’re serious and when your not.  If you’re one of those Sunday morning Christians trying to stay in the shallow end your wasting time!!!  You have to come out into the deep!!!!  And get ready for a haul.

It starts with your relationship with him, work on that first and he will give you the desires of your heart! The bible is clear “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness and all these things will be added onto you!”

If God has blessed you with a spouse Cherish them, love them, and don’t make the mistake of taking anything for granted.  We need to honor God’s blessings, because the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away.  However, one thing is clear his love for us, and as a Loving father he wants the best for us.  He is the creator of LOVE!

Tip of the day:  Single Ladies.  You are daughters of the King!  You are a child of the most high God!  You deserve the best and do not settle for less!  It’s not lowering your standards to come down to his level it’s about bringing him up to yours.
But it’s not your job to change a man and don’t try because the man God has for you will come equipped! He will not be a fixer upper!  Do you not know what the bible says about you?  It says nothing that a man has, nothing that he can acquire can compare to YOU!
And I want you to think of yourselves from this day forward as that pearl of great price!  Proverbs 8:11 “For wisdom is more precious than rubies, and nothing you desire compares with her.”

Tip of the day: Married Ladies.  To achieve a higher level of intimacy when spending time with your husband, do the unthinkable and experiment by both of you turning off your phones!  Not silence or vibrate, OFF!  This signifies that this is time set aside for us to connect as a married couple and we will be totally in the moment with no distractions!  Just for this moment keep conversation to only about the two of you.  No everyday stress talk, bills, kids, problems,etc….. concentrate solely on the two of you for that moment.  Even if you are tempted to talk about other things.. RESIST just for this moment.  Married Couples really do need to have some time that is all their own!!!!! Practice it over and over!

Sorry guys the busy week kind of got away from me but as promised you can click here for your Valentines Day ideas whether your doing frugal, or fancy you’ll be sure to have fun!

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If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing.  If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1-3

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”1 Corinthians 13:4-8


“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”Romans 12:9-10

  • “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.”Ephesians 4:2-3
  • “A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.”Proverbs 31:10-12
  • “Wives, submit yourselves to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.”Colossians 3:18-19


  • “Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love.”1 John 4:7

What is your Love Language?  Do you know the love language of your sweetheart?  people have a specific love language that appeals to them most effectively. Some people have more than one. Knowing the love language of your sweetheart can help you to communicate more effectively with them.

Happy Valentines Day to my Handsome Husband.  I found the one my heart Loves, Song of Solomon 3:4

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God always makes a way for those that Love Him

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Abundance, Increase and Overflow

Ye shall eat the good of the land!  Abundance, increase, and overflow are coming to those that love him!  Numbers 14:8 “If the LORD is pleased with us, then he will bring us into this land and give it to us, a land that flows with milk and honey.”  Exactly where is the land that flows with milk and honey?  It is a very real place.  It is found in Christ!  It is found in your relationship with him!  After the LORD prunes you and refines you he then leads you into a place of abundance, increase and overflow. The Bible describes it as a “good and spacious land, where the ground is fertile and ye shall bear much fruit.”

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May Hope and Courage Abound

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New Year, A Better You

Strengthen and maintain your prayer life in this new season!  It’s the only thing that keeps us as believers grounded, centered, and focused on our relationship with God.  Bring Him all your issues, and worries and let him grant peace.  What will you do different in this season?  How will you make the best of what God has given you?  What changes for the better would you like to make?  1 Peter 5:7 “Casting all your cares and anxieties on him for he cares for you.”  Below are 4 scriptures to carry in your heart as you face another new year.


Philippians 4:6-7   

Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.  And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.

Proverbs 3:5-6

Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding.  In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.

Joshua 1:9 

Have I not commanded you?  Be strong and courageous.  Do not be frightened, and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go.

2 Corinthians 5:17

Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.  The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.

Be good to your Body!  It is the temple of God!  Strengthen your spirit with God’s word, feed your body a balanced healthy diet to live your healthiest fullest potential.  Health is wealth, without it, it’s impossible to have the best quality of life. I used to love a big juicy cheeseburger like everyone else, still do.  However, I don’t eat fast food anymore.  I cut it from my diet because I didn’t feel good after eating it.  I stay away from unnatural foods in favor of fresh salads, fruits and vegetables with fish and chicken and lean meats.  No soda, and low sugar and salt and lots of water.

As my diet got better I felt better and felt in control of my weight.  Be your healthiest!  Look and feel your best!  Create an exercise plan that’s doable and start slow.  I’ve been working out consistently for the past three years just half hour a day.  Sometimes I do the bike, or I do the elliptical or both.  When it’s warm I like to swim.  I’m also very active throughout the day walking as much as I can when I’m not in the car.


Well guys I’m in full vacation mode now and this is the scene, a Cozy Cabin, 8,000 ft elevation surrounded by the scenic beauty of the mountains with my husband.  It doesn’t get any better than this! A reminder to enjoy each day with loved ones as they are blessings from God!

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“January Birthday Announcements”, A special Happy Birthday to author and founder of SCW January 13th, and to my Beloved Grandfather Thomas Newman January 6th.

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