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New Year’s Day 2018

 

Time to Reflect on the past year.  Reflect our success as well as our failures.  Reflect on our personal and spiritual growth.  Reflect on family and friends.  Ask yourself what changes do you want to make? What goals have you set for yourself in the new year? Reflect on your relationship with God.

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New Year’s Eve Party Planning & Safety Tips 2017

The New Year’s Eve Holiday is exciting and Fabulous!  With Thanksgiving and Christmas behind us, it ‘s time to turn our thoughts to the New Year!  It’s a time to celebrate our accomplishments of the year, reflect on the goodness of God in our lives and how He has brought us through.  It’s also a time of reflection on the lessons He teaches us along the way, as well as time to look forward to the New Year!

The blessing of a new year gives us hope,  a fresh start, and a chance to be near those closest to us. Time to celebrate!  Yes you can plan an awesome party for New years eve inexpensively.  The Good thing is New Years eve at least is not one of those big food holidays like Thanksgiving and Christmas.  So you should be spending less on preparation.  New Years eve parties can be simple or fancy.  It’s really about having fun, seeing friends, and the countdown to midnight.  Of course you’ll have food but it doesn’t need to be over the top.  Traditionally New Years Day dinners are nice, but New Years eve you can get away with appetizers.  The number one rule keep it simple!

  1. Keep Decorations Simple.  Use candles! Set a nice table, (use  holiday decorations as in opening picture) Check out dollar store for banners, party hats, noisemakers, plastic ware, etc.. You’ll pay more at other stores and for throw aways, it just make sense.
  2. Host later in the evening. Hosting later in the evening allows you to serve a lighter meals or appetizers.  If people are arriving later, chances are they’ve eaten, and late new years eve parties often have champagne and appetizers not full course meals.  Serve Amazing appetizers like mini cheese burgers on a stick, buffalo wings, Baked Potato,topped with butter cheese and sour cream with bacon.
  3. Check the internet for free or cheap New Years eve events in your neighborhood.  Local community parties can be great, get your friends together and check out a local party.
  4. Host a potluck dinner.  You’ll have variety and save money on buying everything yourself.

  1. Have a designated driver.  If you are unable to get a designated driver, in most cities this is the only day of the year when cab rides are free if you’ve had too much drink.
  2.  Women should travel together to stay safe. There’s strength in numbers.  Or at least buddy up!  Two of you together rather than alone.
  3. Make sure phones are charged before going out, use a car charger if you have one.
  4. Use self control avoid drinking so much that you are unaware of your surroundings. Be alert.

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The Controversy Of Christians and Halloween and how to have Fun!

Do Christians celebrate Halloween?  The controversy  with Christians and Halloween as far as celebrating or not celebrating, stems from the fact that Halloween, no matter how commercialized, has pagan origins.  Are there things about Halloween that are anti-Christian and should be avoided? Absolutely.  In a word “Darkness” and anything the opposite of Love, because God is Love and there is no Darkness in Him.  Scripture does not speak about Halloween at all.  But it does give us some principles to live by.  The New Testament teaching on the occult is clear, Acts 8:9-24. The story of Simon, shows that occultism and Christianity don’t mix.  In the old testament witchcraft was punishable by death. Exodus 22:18, Leviticus 19:31.  So with or without Halloween, Christians do not celebrate darkness.

That being said those who have children and most do, you wouldn’t want your kids to feel as if they are being left out of all the “fun”.  There’s nothing wrong with the act of dressing in a costume and going to parties and filling their bags with candy, it’s a perfectly innocent thing for them.  No doubt their school will be having costume parties and providing candy for them.  Most parents want to allow children to have the fun of the season without the dark aspects and that is fine.  I was allowed as Child to celebrate Halloween and dress up in costume, trick or treat for candy.  However, my costume was never anything dark such as witches, demons, ghosts, etc….  There are much prettier and positive characters and costumes for your kids, such as superheroes, princess, angels.  I also don’t think there ‘s anything wrong with a scary movie. My family loved horror films. Being Christian is about  a heart attitude, and only God knows that. There are lots of ways for kids and adults to have fun with the day without being involved in the darker aspects of the event.  It doesn’t matter what day or holiday it is as Christian’s whatever you do or wherever you go let your light shine.  Enjoy the harvest!

Various ways for Christians to celebrate the Harvest with their kids

  • For adults, costume parties are fine.  Again as long as costumes aren’t dark or evil.

  • There are numerous places to take your child for Halloween without taking them door to door. (if that’s not your thing)  You can have a small party at your home for the kids or a neighbor’s home

  • Churches often have candy and dress up parties for the kids.

  • Schools participate in dress up and have parties.

  • Community centers have costume parties for kids as well.

  • Some Christians have an alternate “Harvest Party”  since fall is the time of harvest

  • Pumpkin Patches host candy hunts as well

Fun, positive costumes ideas for the whole family

  • You can show people that costumes don’t have to be dark or evil.  In fact your costumes are more fun and bring more smiles to people.  You are children of light.  You are good spirited, fun, and uplifting!

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Leaving and Cleaving : Cementing the Marital Bond

Becoming One with your mate is God’s mandate for a marital relationship, and it’s a process.  Genesis 2:24 KJV, “therefore a man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife, and they shall become one flesh”.  So What does it mean to “leave and cleave”?  It is a unique joining of two people into one entity.  This is the picture of marital intimacy.  Other translations: “leave and be united”, leave and be joined”.  God himself ordained that a couple be joined in Holy matrimony.

Why is cleaving important?

  • Recognize that your marriage created a new family, and your new family must be a higher priority than your previous family.  If the spouses neglect to cleave to each other the results are a lack of intimacy and unity.

  • Leaving your parents does not mean ignoring them or never spending time with them. You are creating a new family culture for your family.  Although you love your parents you have to do things your own way, loving them all the same.  His will is for you to discover commitment and security.

  • Cleaving is key to building a marriage that will endure hard times and be the beautiful relationship God intends it to be.

  • Ultimately we cleave to God as we read his word and submit to his authority over us.

 How to Cleave

Pray together and pray over your marriage.

Keep God first place by which you measure every situation

Intimacy, romance, and quality time spent together must be constantly renewed over time.

A commitment means you don’t quit when things get hard.

Verse of the Day:  Amplified Bible version

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Fall Date Ideas 2017

Looking for a little fall adventure in your datesAs an alternative to the classic dinner and a movie?  I love dinner and a movie.  However, with a change of seasons comes change in activities. Active being the operative word!  Some couples enjoy active dates as do I.  Active dates are a reminder that dates are supposed to be fun!  Time to leave the worries behind and enjoy the company of someone special.  Each couple sets their pace of what is comfortable for them.  So ask questions, find out what they enjoy doing and do it together.  Laughter and fun keeps you young, and decreases stress!

Hot air balloon ride. Take your date to new heights with a balloon ride. The view of fall foliage is stunning.

Indoor Flying. I’m so excited about getting to do this, haven’t done it yet but it’s on the list.  It’s a very safe environment with trained instructors and a whole lot of fun! Soar!

Dinner cruise. Not just dinner, but dinner in motion on the water with a view.

Hiking. For all of you hiking buffs, it’s always better when you have someone to share it with. Take plenty of pictures to document your journey.  Even better make a scrapbook!

Fall County fair. County fairs are great fun, great food, and awesome rides.  Don’t forget to play a game or two and win your date a stuffed animal.

Picnic amidst  a fall backdrop  in the park. The trees have changed colors and the leaves have fallen. Get out your blanket and enjoy the fall scenery.

Get dressed to the nines and go dancing.  Shake it off!

A simple hayride through the country.  Perhaps a hayride is more your speed. Whatever the activity two is better than one.

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Fall Style 2017

It’s that time of year again where the mornings are crisp and the nights a little cooler.  Time to step out in style for the fall 2017 season!

 

  • Classic Black and white never goes out of style.

  • The Color red is red-hot for the fall season

  • Casual shades of Grey

 

  • Build your wardrobe one piece at a time with neutral colors that can be worn with various pieces

  • Nice high boot and chic bag are always on trend for fall.  The long suede boot is a must have for fashionistas

 

  • From office to evening casual


SCW sends its heartfelt condolences and prayers of healing to all of the victims of the senseless and evil Las Vegas shooting.  Thank you first responders for your swift, professional response and bravery.  May our God comfort all those affected. 

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How to get and keep the Christian man you want through Building Intimacy

What is Intimacy?  Intimacy generally refers to the feeling of being in a close personal association or belonging together.  It is a familiar and very close affective connection with another as a result of a bond  that is formed through knowledge and experience of the other.  Genuine intimacy in human relationships requires dialogue, transparency, vulnerability and reciprocity.  Immediately when people hear the word intimate they think of sex.  However, we are going to elevate our minds and discuss a higher level of Intimacy.

Intimacy can be achieved and maintained in a relationship “without” sex!  The highest level of intimacy is connecting with another mentally and spiritually without sex.  Problem is most people never get that far to experience it because they ruined it by jumping in the bed too soon! I have discussed in earlier post that my husband and I “waited ” before we got married. It was the best thing!Being in the will of God is always best. I was at a place in my life where I really wanted to things right! As a strong Christian man being the leader that my husband is,he said early on in the relationship ‘ look, this is what we’re going to do” . That’s ultimately how I knew he was the one! because he was willing to wait for me. He showed me he was different from the other guys.

He said that I was different from any other woman he had met. My husband said I’m not looking to “rent” I’m looking to buy! Can I get AMEN!   An intimate relationship is an interpersonal relationship that involves emotional and or physical intimacy.  Physical intimacy is characterized by platonic love, friendship, romantic love, or sexual activity.  Emotional intimacy develops after a certain level of trust has been reached, and personal bonds established.  Intimate conversations become the basis for “confidences” (secret knowledge), that bind people together.

But first we must start at the beginning, “To thou own self be true”.  You must have an intimate relationship with God.  You must know who you are.  You must know who’s you are.  Choose thee this day whom you serve.  You cannot serve two masters.  Seek ye first the kingdom of God and His righteousness and all these things shall be added.  Do the hard work on yourself to be ready to receive what God has for you.  Pray “Search me oh God and know my heart” Psalms 149:23.  That means search my soul, fix what needs fixing, correct in me what needs correcting.  So relationship with God, good relationship with self, and then a good relationship with another.  You’ve got to be different than the other girls, it’s your “difference” that makes you special, makes you a “Wife”.

But in order to get the good Christian man God has for you, you’ve got to get rid of the old.  God won’t put new wine in old wine skins.  He is doing a new thing but you won’t be able to recognize the new thing if you’re stuck.  Stuck in that old mentality that old way of thinking.  To get what you’ve never had you have to do something you’ve never done.  I had such a big problem with establishing intimacy before God touched my life.  I had a problem with trusting people so as a result I didn’t let anyone in.  I had to learn what it takes to achieve true intimacy and I did.  Keep in mind it can only be achieved with a like minded individual and since this is next level thinking it’s going to take a special person, but it’s worth it.

So when people can walk away from you, “Let Them Walk!”  Don’t try to talk another into staying with you, loving you, “Let them Walk”.  Because destiny is never tied to anyone who has left!  The right person will stay.  I want you to always remember that and this is not relegated to “just relationships”.  You don’t need everyone liking you just the right person!  Proverbs 21:1 “The king’s heart is in the hands of the Lord and as the rivers of water He turneth whatsoever He will.”

 

 

5 Ways to Build and Maintain Intimacy

“As a man thinketh so is he” Proverbs 3:27.  You must be, believe, think, and carry yourself as a high value woman.  Challenge yourself, challenge him!!!  Commit to never again, sleep with a man again unless and until he marries you.  Living in the times we do this idea is not popular.  The media is saturated with sex and debauchery and it’s only going to get worse.  The world will get crazier and crazier the Bible says so.  But you as a Christian woman must hold fast to your faith.  God blesses good decisions!!!  Could it be that you should stop giving all the wrong men time and attention, and clear the way for the right man that God has for you.
The law of attraction says whatever you’re seeking is seeking you. That good Christian man is looking for you too.  He’s looking for a good Christian woman to make her his wife.  The Bible says “He that findeth a wife findeth a good thing!” ( Amen).  That means she’s wife material when he finds her.  This man will respect that you have standards!  You will challenge him and cause him to step up to the plate.  If there is no challenge there will be no interest!!!  Or short term interest at best.  Boy meets girl, girl sleeps with boy, GAME OVER.  Men like challenge!!  They actually thrive on it!!  And it builds him and makes him more of a man.  Look at their recreational activities: Sports, video games, computers.  Those things provide challenge, they love games.  There’s no challenge in you handing over the goods.  When you say NO it’s game on now.  Make him work for it.  This is what tells him you’re the one.

Concentrate on getting to know this person – the goal when you meet someone new is to try and get to know them as best you can. And try to decide is this someone you would like to spend time with further?  When we meet someone new we start a connection!  Keep that going!  Let the relationship grow or not grow out of connection.  When you have sex you break the connection.  He’s ready to go on to the next conquest.  You must break that cycle or you’re doomed to repeat it.

Don’t be too needy – Men have a nose for that kind of thing.  A woman who’s doing her own thing and has her own life is very attractive to a man.  I heard a handsome celebrity man say in an interview that he saw two attractive women in the airport.  The first one he said, “she was trying too hard”.  Maybe she was winking at him, smiling too hard, I don’t know but he wasn’t feeling it even though he thought she was pretty.  The second one he said was the one who drew him in because she wasn’t even looking at him, she was doing her own thing.  He was checking her out.  Play it cool and let him come to you!!  Let HIM be the man in every aspect, let him make the advances, let him pick you up, let him pay for dates .

Stop letting men move in with you – I learned from a pastor to Never commit to, or marry a man based on his potential.  For example: “one day he’s going to be a great business man”.  A man doesn’t have to be a rich man to be a good man that’s not what I’m saying.  As a man he should be stable!  Stable meaning, he should be working, have his own place and car.  Until a man establishes himself first he is unable to give of himself to a woman.  He has to establish who he is and what he does.  Living together a man gets all the benefits of marriage and none of the responsibility!!  That’s not a smart move for the woman.

Build Intimacy through: Honesty, transparency, communication, conversation, closeness, establishing a friendship.  You build true intimacy by not having sex.  Instead building a connection that will last a lifetime.  Stop robbing your tomorrow for short term gratification, which is essentially lust not love, there’s a big difference.  That’s what I want for every Christian woman out there, to experience true love.  Someone who accepts you for who you are and loves you anyway.

  1. Develop Intimacy – By getting to know him without sex.  If he can’t accept that, he’s not the one!  Show him your difference.  It won’t take very long for people to show you who they really are.  You decide whether it’s worth going any further or if it’s not a good fit and move on with your dignity intact.  A man is never going to bond with you emotionally through having sex with him.  For him sex is just physical, until a woman captures him emotionally or until he puts a ring on it.  There are women who’ve been in long term relationships for years but he hasn’t proposed because you allow him to be comfortable as things are.  A man is only going to do what you let him get away with.
  2. Build Intimacy – Establishing trust and closeness without sex.  Nurture the connection.  Most importantly, wait! wait! before you just give yourself away to a man.  Waiting is a war tactic.  Whoever can hold out the longest wins!  Ladies certainly know how to hold out, you just have to do it at the right time!  Which is in the beginning when you meet him.  Set your boundaries, show him your standards, there’s no game playing.  Be upfront, don’t lead him on.  When you make your stand up front people will either fall in line or fall out.  And praise God when they leave, they did you favor, you don’t want him. And that puts you a little closer to getting the man God has for you.  You don’t have to waste time with mediocrity.  Sexually undisciplined men are babies.  You need a man.
  3. Maintain intimacy – When God answers your prayers for marriage and gives you what you dreamed of, it’s not over!  It’s just beginning, and now you have to maintain what he gave you. Vow to always be honest with one another.

Featured Married Couple: Actress Meagan Goode and husband.  Universal Studio executive, and pastor Devon Franklin.  They are our featured couple of the month because they have lived it and experienced true intimacy by NOT having sex before marriage.  They’re both Christians and were just both at a place in their lives where they did not want to have sex again until they were married.  Now they have a healthy happy relationship that God has blessed and formed a lasting bond.  I’m so happy for them!  I like that they’ve been so open about waiting for sex and their journey.  It shows other women what God can do if you will do it his way!  They also wrote a book called, “The Wait”.  I was very inspired by their decision to write the book.  Though I have not yet read it, I plan to but it has inspired me to write another book with my husband as well.  So we have that to look forward to!  Good luck Meagan and Devon to God be the glory!

 

 

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Hope you guys are having an awesome summer! I am too!  Getting a lot done.  It’s possible to be blessed and still have challenges.  Take heart that God is strengthening us in those difficult times, and we must press on!  To God be the Glory Forever!  You have a friend in California!

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