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A Merry Heart , and 4 Ways to Reduce Stress this Season

  1. Take Joy in the season and meditate on the goodness of the Lord.

  2. Set a Budget

  3. Spend time with family and friends

  4. Avoid going to endless stores in the holiday frenzy.  Shop online and have it delivered right to your door.  If you prefer going out preplan your trip, combine it with running errands and make a day of it.  Maximize your time and get a lot done in one day, that way you avoid going to endless stores.

Editors note: Happy Holiday season to our our followers and readers around the world From Southern California.

Shout out to the East Coast New York City Rockefeller Center

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Remembering an Angel This Holiday Season: Pamela Newman, August 31, 1956-December 2, 2005, We Love you Mom!

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How to stop Technology from Ruining Communication in your Relationships

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All of America is online!  In fact the whole world is online.  All you need is a phone with internet capabilities, a smartphone and your in.  Facebook, Instagram,Twitter.  You can record your whole life and post it for all the world to see.  Every thought you think be it positive or negative just click and send. Although the internet can fill our need for instantaneous gratification it has forever changed relationships and the way we communicate.  My husband and I were recently out on date night in L.A.  We had dinner at a restaurant just a couple of blocks from Venice Beach.  The plan was after dinner we’d leave the car, walk to the beach and watch the sunset.

We went to our car to get our beach blankets.  Being that this is Venice Beach, there’s no shortage of indoor, outdoor restaurants and bars there couples everywhere and they all come to watch the sunset.  One couple happened to catch our attention. They were walking side by side headed toward the beach. She was looking down at her phone and he was looking down at his.  Sad.  You may have seen couples like this, or worse a couple is out at dinner sitting at the table ignoring each other both on their phones. Really?  Whatever happened to uninterrupted quality time?  I guess it’s the latest casualty that’s fallen by the wayside in the age of advanced technology.  The post today talks about ways in which technology may be ruining your relationships and how to stop it!

5 ways technology is ruining your relationships and how to stop it

  • Track your time online and set boundaries with technology.  Exactly how many hours are you spending online?  Think about how you can restructure your time to do other things you like to do.
  • Substitute online time for healthier habits. Like spending times with friends or family.
  • Get connected in real life! Establish healthy fulfilling relationships.
  • Be present in the moment with a loved one. Virtual connections online can’t replace physical interaction.  Constantly being online interrupts quality time together that can’t be replaced.
  • Perhaps you should use some of that free time to spend time with God in prayer.  Maybe you have an issue or issues in your life that you need God to fix or help you with, or you just need to thank Him for how good He’s been.  I love the way Joyce Meyer puts it, “Don’t go to the phone, go to the throne!”

  • Smart tip of the day:  If you find yourself being less and less present in relationships with family and friends and spend endless hours glued to your phone, or you feel as though you can’t go a day without it, it could be a sign you need to unplug.  You may want to reset, create clear boundaries with technology to put more effort into what’s really important.  Technology can become idol worship!  Jonah 2:8 “those who cling to worthless idols turn away from God’s love for them.”

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The Maker Of Heaven and Earth

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Blessed in Abundance

Happy Summer Ladies!  I hope you all have been enjoying your summer and getting a little rest and relaxation.  Did you know that God commands rest?  Oh yes, He never meant for us to go non-stop, never stopping to take in His blessings.  In recreation, we recreate ourselves.  We renew our strength, refresh our bodies, thus getting a fresh perspective and renewed attitude for the next leg of the journey.  Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me all thee that labour and i will give you rest.”  While on vacation a typical day for me as a housewife goes like this.

I get up with my husband fix his lunch and see him off to work.  I hit the gym somewhere between 5 and 6am, and do my workout.  Next, I love to swim so  I swim for about a half hour, then relax my muscles in the hot tub.  Next, I have a healthy breakfast and hit the shower.  I take care of the business of the day whatever that may be on that particular day.  Sometimes that means running errands, appointments, etc..

On Fridays I like to clean the house for the weekend and prepare a clean warm, and inviting atmosphere for my hardworking husband to come home to. (yes I do it myself) Then I prepare a healthy lunch.  The rest of the day I get to relax until my husband comes home.

So you see I’m just an ordinary person with a normal life.  What makes me extraordinary is my relationship with God.  He’s the secret to my success!  As a Christian woman, wife and mother, I put my trust in Him and things have a way of working themselves out.  Keep believing!  Keep strengthening your soul with His word so that you may be able to withstand the various trials that come our way.  God never promised we would not have problems, he promised He’d be with us when we do.  When God is for you He’s more than the whole world against you!  Below are some uplifting scriptures about women to meditate on this summer.

Proverbs 14:1, “A wise woman builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.  A wise woman will keep watch over her house and seek to provide an atmosphere that others are drawn too in plain terms NO drama!

Proverbs 11:16, “A kind-hearted woman gains honor.” God wants you to be a woman who is pleasant to know!

Titus 2:5, “A woman of God is self-controlled and pure, busy at home, kind, and subject to their husbands.” She works at controlling her spirit, she takes care of the home, she’s a kind woman and she seeks her husband’s knowledge and advice.

Proverbs 21:19, “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.” (Wow even God says STOP! nagging him).  Instead have a conversation with him being mindful of your tone and the timing of the conversation.

Ephesians 5:22, “Wives submit yourself to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”  (God is clear, the husband is the head! I love having a strong capable man!  Turns me on!)

1 Timothy 3:11, “In the same way women are to be worthy of respect.  Not malicious talkers, but temperate and trustworthy in everything.” He’s saying if you don’t have anything good to say don’t say anything!  The bible says we are to build up each other.  I don’t involve myself in gossip!  It’s a waste of my time and I’m not interested.  I’m more interested in what is happening in my own life than anything else.  Keep watch over your own house ladies!

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All Things are Possible!

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To God be the glory!  I did it guys!  I graduated with my second degree!  And had the pleasure of seeing my daughter graduate college as well.  One down, one to go, my son is next.

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Husband, Father, Servant

A husband and a father is a man’s highest calling.  What is the role of a Godly man?  How does a Christian woman recognize him when she sees him?  Scripture describes the man as leader.

1 Timothy 3:1-16,  “Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money.  He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”

The man is to show honor to his wife found in,

1 Peter 3:7, “Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”  The man, the husband, father, and servant leader is held accountable to God.  When Adam and Eve first sinned in the garden, God came looking for Adam!  The one He left in charge.  Adam blamed the woman.  That was unacceptable to God and in Genesis 3:23,  “The Lord God banished Adam from the Garden to work the ground from which he had been taken.”

Likewise wives are called to submit to their husbands.

Yes submit.  But not to just any man, a godly man, that’s taking his direction from God because he’s only as good as the resources he draws from.  I know Some women don’t like to hear that, however the bible is clear, and God does not change!  “He’s the same today yesterday and forever more.”
Malachi 3:6“I, the lord your God do not change!”  Colossians 3:18“Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in to the lord.”  Even Nature knows a female needs a strong man.

When eagles get ready to mate, and by the way eagles can only mate with other eagles, and not just any eagle, the most capable eagle.  Able to sustain a wife and family.  So the ritual goes as follows; the female eagle flies to the highest peak, and drops a stick mid-air, the male eagle capable of getting the stick is the one who gets to mate with the female eagle, sound easy?  Not so, there can be only one winner.

My husband is a Christian man, a praying man, he’s also a good money manager.  He’s always thinking about and preparing for our needs months down the road.  He’s very rational, reasonable, and self-controlled.  We pray together almost daily, usually in the morning to pray for our day.  We take our concerns to God!  Because worrying is no good!  I need him to be strong for me!  The bible says you’ll know him by his fruit!  He told me when we were dating I want to honor you, I don’t want sex until we’re married!  I could see that he was a very blessed man!  And a true Christian that practices what he preaches.  I said to him you’re the real deal baby!

Of course there were other things, like the way he treated me.  He knows HOW to treat a woman!  He treats me in such a way that I can’t help but surrender to the masculine energy!!!  He has a good heart and sincerely wants to do his best!  If a man does not do his best toward his woman his prayers are hindered 1 Peter 3:7  As a man do you ever wonder why your prayers are not being answered?  It’s because God is watching, and He knows the intents of the heart.  However, “the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord.”  God will lead him to success, prosperity, good health, a good woman,etc….  There’s nothing sexier than a man on top of his game!

 

3 John 1:2, “Beloved, I wish above all things for you to prosper and be in health even as thy soul prospers!”

Authors Note:  I would be remiss if I did not tell you that these types of men are rare these days!  They are NOT around every corner!  He’s a rare and special find.  The kind of man only God can bring!  So “be anxious for nothing but by prayer and supplication let your request be made known to God.”  Then prepare yourself to be found.  Work on yourself!!!!!  Whatever areas in your life need fixing, whether it be the inside, the outside, both!  Ask God to show you what needs to be fixed in your life.  I had a lot that needed to be worked out before receiving my husband, then God proved to me His word.  “Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all of these things shall be added!!!!!”  He did indeed add everything I needed when I looked to HIM!!!!!!

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Dating online for Single Christian Women

Love it or hate it online dating is here to stay.  Online dating has lost its’ stigma and 44% of Americans say that online dating is the way to go.  Christian dating sites have doubled in usage.  God is still sovereign over your relational life no matter which course you take to meet a potential spouse.  God can have  you meet your spouse anywhere.  Online dating is simply a technique of the times in which we live that allows us to meet people we may not otherwise get to meet.

However, whether online or not you still need to be careful about whom you choose to date.  The good thing about online dating is you get to browse profiles privately and without obligation.  Christian women have met their spouses online.  The complaint that I hear most often from women is that they don’t often get second dates.  Why is that?  A big part of a first date is obviously communication.  You have conversation to get to know someone.  I think this is where the breakdown comes, in conversation.   For example, if you’re a woman who talks about yourself through the whole date never letting a man get a word in edgewise he’s probably not going to want to see you again.

What a man should see on a date with a Christian woman is a potential wife.  Proverbs 18:22, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing.” That means you have to be wife material when he finds you.  What does that look like?

  • She’s a Christian like him and they are equally yoked together.  (Shares your value systems and beliefs.)
  • You have common interests.  For example you both like to travel.
  • She makes you a better man.  A good woman brings out the best in a man
  • She should have strength of character and carry herself with confidence.  She’s not afraid of losing a man because she makes him wait for intimacy.  A good Christian man will be in agreement with this.  This is the way I knew I had a true Christian man in my life with my husband.
  • She is smart.  She’s able to have interesting conversation along with ideas, opinions.
  • She’s attractive!  She’s a 10 in your eyes.  Not because she looks like a model necessarily, she can, but what’s important is she is beautiful inside as well.  Personality can make or break attraction big time!  Men have reported dating hot girls that ended up being ugly by the end of the date.  This is important to a man of substance!!  A man without substance is happy to sleep with you and then ghost you.
  • She loves you unconditionally.  The quickest way to ruin a relationship is to try to change a man.  He needs someone to love him for him.  None of us are perfect and that’s what we all want is to be loved for who we are.

 

  1.  Questions about his previous relationships!  This is a definite no-no.  Stay firmly in the present and future.
  2.  How many girlfriends have you had?  Nothing is more dull and boring then your failed past relationships.
  3.  How much money do you make?  Makes you sound shallow and superficial.  His situation will speak for itself
  4.  When does he want to get married and have kids and how many?
  5.  Any intimate questions about sex, it’s too early for this.
  6.  Avoid asking him to tell you his entire life story.  Save some for future dates, if any.

Dating tips for the single Christian Woman.

  • Keep conversation light. You can ask him things like what do you like to do for fun?
  • Meet him at the designated place for your first date, you drive separately.
  • You can talk about your careers.  What’s one thing you like the most about your job?  What is the thing you like the least about it?
  • The goal should be fun, light and enjoyable.

 

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