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To: Kirk, my friend and brother


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Start Anew!

Welcome Autumn!  Fall officially begins Sunday, September 23rd.  If you’ve been following me you know its my favorite season.  It cools down here in sunny southern California.  The warm days give way to cool evenings and crisp mornings.  The new season brings fresh hope!  New opportunities, and expectation of God’s goodness.  I found a great article I want to share with you from Billy Graham.  It’s called “5 ways to start a new season!”  Ecclesiastes 3:1, “To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under heaven.”

  • Smart tip of the day:  You will never be truly and fully fulfilled without God!  There is nothing that will replace a personal relationship with God in your life, not a man, not family, not your dream job, not social media, not success, not money,but with him, not only will he add all of these things, all things are possible!

1. Pour into Someone’s Life

“All around you are people whose lives are filled with trouble and sorrow, and they need your compassion and encouragement.” —Billy Graham

One of the best ways to re-energize your own life is to focus on someone else’s.  Is there a young person in your life in need of a mentor?  Approach him or her about being that person.  Are there people in your family or neighborhood you don’t normally spend time with?  Reach out and invite them to a meal or activity with you.

You might also consider serving your church or community in some way – even if it’s for a short period of time or something you can do from home.

The Bible says even Jesus Christ, “came not to be served but to serve” (Matthew 20:28).  Serving is a great way not only to live out your faith, but to to meet and impact new people, and improve the places around you.  You may discover a new talent or hobby while you’re at it.

2. Pray for Something New

“Too often we use petty little petitions, oratorical exercises, or the words of others rather than the cries of our inmost being. When you pray, pray!” —Billy Graham

Do you ever find yourself praying for the same things over and over?  There’s something to be said for persistence in prayer, but it can also be good to expand your conversation with God.

Think of someone – or maybe a group of people – you don’t normally pray for and add that person or group to your prayers.  If no one comes to mind, ask God to give you a specific burden that you take to Him in prayer.  You might even ask others to join you.  Whatever you pray for, expect God to work.

3. Set Aside Quiet Time with God

“And rising very early in the morning, while it was still dark, [Jesus] departed and went out to a desolate place, and there he prayed.”  – Mark 1:35

If Jesus needed alone time with God, how much more do we?

Maybe you’ve heard of having “quiet time” with God but haven’t yet made it a habit.  Now is a good time to start!  Quiet time means setting aside a few moments in your day devoted solely to God – without distractions.  You might spend that time talking to God in prayer, meditating on something you read in Scripture, seeking His direction, or simply being quiet and letting God speak to you.  As Psalm 46:10 urges us, “Be still, and know that I am God.”

4. Get Outside

“Let the heavens be glad, and let the earth rejoice; let the sea roar, and all that fills it; let the field exult, and everything in it! Then shall all the trees of the forest sing for joy before the Lord …”  –Psalm 96:13

Sometimes a bit of fresh air can do us a lot of good – physically, mentally and spiritually.

Remember that God created the nature around us to be used and enjoyed.  It’s also an expression of Himself – a sign of His handiwork (Psalm 19:1).  Take time to get outside – or sit at a window if you can’t get out – and take in all of God’s creation.  You might make a mental note of all the beauty you see or all the ways God’s character is evident in the creation around you.

5. Eliminate Negativity

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”  – Philippians 4:8

Where’s your focus today?  If you find yourself full of fear or worry, dwelling on a difficult past or venting one complaint after another, maybe it’s time for an attitude adjustment.

That doesn’t mean ignoring trials and turmoil around you, but keeping your attention on God’s promises for His children – on His faithfulness, provision, comfort, peace, unfailing love and eternal life.  Your positive outlook and trust in God may rub off on people around you.

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Submission and Straight Talk for Christian Couples and Singles

We have a special treat for your weekend reading and listening pleasure.  A double post about the hot topic of submission and “What men wish women knew” and “What women wish men knew”. Enjoy.  When a woman submits to her husband, she is actually submitting to God!  God set the man as leader and a woman can trust that God is good.  She also knows that nothing escapes God’s notice and a wicked man will be held accountable for his actions.  Did you know that God cares about women so much that if a husband doesn’t treat her right his prayers will not be answered!

I’ll prove it to you:
1 Peter 3:7 “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.”  So God has you covered ladies!  However, a submissive wife is not relegated to idly sitting by while her husband makes all the family decisions.  In a healthy marriage, husband and wife work as a team.  When a decision cannot be jointly agreed upon, the leader makes it, knowing he is responsible foremost unto God for that decision.  He is commanded as leader to make good decisions for the family.

The Healthy Submissive

The healthy submissive is capable of, and thrives on, intense, intimate, emotionally open relationships. This is often evident in the number of nourishing, sustaining, and life affirming friendships she makes over the years.

The healthy submissive is a giver. She often needs help to ration herself because her impulses nearly always lead her to want to do good for others.

The healthy submissive is capable of intense joy, especially in the context of a sustaining relationship.

The healthy submissive finds significant relaxation when properly related. She is at ease in that place.

The healthy submissive has a fluidity of self, a flexibility that enables her to adapt to changing circumstances

The healthy submissive has no more than the usual cultural conflicts about her body, and its goodness and beauty.

The healthy submissive takes pride in her accomplishments.
The healthy submissive accepts herself as she is, knowing that while her culture values independence and self sufficiency, she has strong dependency needs and that there is no inherent “wrongness” about those needs.

The healthy submissive, in accepting herself “as is” is tolerant of others. But neither will she allow anyone to tell her what her truth should be.

The healthy submissive has a reasonable self concept, aware of her difficulties as well as her strengths.

The healthy submissive hunger to be the object of an intense and penetrating understanding. When her nature is understood and she is held in a loving and firm frame, her devotion is almost limitless. The healthy submissive has an enormous capacity for devotion, from which springs her service.

Ever wonder what’s on the minds of  single and married Christian men and women today?
I’m excited to bring to you, “The Chat”, a Christian show that features open, honest dialogue from a Christian perspective.  Find out what men think, and what they wish women knew.  What sends single men running in the other direction, what attracts him to you, how can we build better relationships.

Learn about everything from submission to leadership in the home.  I thought the posts complement one another and should go together.  Of course not to be outdone “What women wished men knew”.  It’s both for couples and singles alike, you are sure to enjoy, “What men wished women knew”.  My advice to ladies is really listen in on what the men have to say and then make mental adjustments accordingly.  In order to make changes we have to first understand.

On a personal note!

  • Prayer works!

SCW wants to lift up a fellow believer, Kirk and his family in prayer!  We understand that you don’t know him, but he is richly loved by us.  He’s battling a serious illness, and if any of you have family members or friends that have gone through this you know how tough it can be on the entire family.  So as a connected family of believers we ask that you pray for him as we do for you.  May God bless your hearts.

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Celebrating the fruits of our Labor!

Happy Labor Day America!  You’ve earned it!!!  Shout out to the workforce!!  You Rock!  You keep this country moving forward!  No matter what your occupation is, honest work is respectable!!!  There is dignity in all work!  For without Labor nothing Prospers!  So enjoy this day of rest, no early morning alarms, no getting in the car and hitting the road before it’s light out, just rest!  We had a pool party yesterday for my husband’s birthday with the kids, it was fun.  Our son manned the grill and my husband and I got to sit and chill.  We had prayer gave thanks to God for all our blessings!  And it was a wonderful time.  I’m a simple woman who likes simple pleasures, love and laughter, family, a great meal, and the beauty of being in God’s nature.

Millions will celebrate today with family and friends, be sure to lift God up!  And be thankful for the blessing of work!  And resources to live and take care of our families.  We must remember that there are those less fortunate who do not have work at this time and if it’s a family member or friend keep them in prayer.  However if you are lucky enough to be celebrating the fruits of your labor today, to God be the Glory, you are blessed indeed!  Be safe!  Have an awesome day!  Happy Labor Day to all our followers and readers!

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Labor Day Weekend

It’s the unofficial end of the summer season.  We love summer but hate to see it go.  Understandably so summer is the season of vacation, barbecues, family gatherings, sunny days and outdoor activities.  However, such is life that all good things must come to an end.  Not to worry God is good!  And there’s a new season upon us!  Fall!  The beauty of fall in its full glory will soon be here.  Fall brings with it new pleasures!  The kids will be going back to school and depending on what part of the country you’re in some kids have already gone back.  So that’s good news for moms!  Something to look forward to.  Soon fall foliage will be displayed in nature!

We will cool down to crisp fresh air!  But, one day at a time.  We must live in the moment, and this is the moment when millions of hard-working Americans will celebrate the fruits of their labor this Labor Day, and Labor Day weekend!  There’s still plenty of warm weather to enjoy and lots of sun seekers will hit the beaches, and parks this weekend.  Or maybe you are entertaining at home, as we are!  My husband’s birthday is on Labor Day weekend.  We always have a party for him.  We’ll barbecue steaks at the pool with the kids and hang out.

Shout out to all the Virgo birthdays, in August and September!  We have so many Virgo birthdays.  My husband, my mom, my Godmother.  How will you spend your Labor Day Holiday?  Whatever you decide to do have fun and be safe!  Best of all no work on Monday!  Yay!!  And remember whatever mood you find yourself in at any given time, think of SCW as that positive friend you can always go to get a good word and  be uplifted.  Thanks for reading SCW!  We love our readers! Enjoy your weekend!

Verse of the Day:

  • Make sure you have your road side assistance card updated and handy

  • Have a decent spare tire available in case you have to do it yourself

  • Confirm travel accommodations ahead of time

  • Whenever possible pack the night before you leave

Pamela Newman, 1956-2005  A Loving Mom Forever in my heart

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The Beauty of Faith, Hope, and Love

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Blessed in Abundance

Happy Summer Ladies!  I hope you all have been enjoying your summer and getting a little rest and relaxation.  Did you know that God commands rest?  Oh yes, He never meant for us to go non-stop, never stopping to take in His blessings.  In recreation, we recreate ourselves.  We renew our strength, refresh our bodies, thus getting a fresh perspective and renewed attitude for the next leg of the journey.  Matthew 11:28, “Come unto me all thee that labour and i will give you rest.”  While on vacation a typical day for me as a housewife goes like this.

I get up with my husband fix his lunch and see him off to work.  I hit the gym somewhere between 5 and 6am, and do my workout.  Next, I love to swim so  I swim for about a half hour, then relax my muscles in the hot tub.  Next, I have a healthy breakfast and hit the shower.  I take care of the business of the day whatever that may be on that particular day.  Sometimes that means running errands, appointments, etc..

On Fridays I like to clean the house for the weekend and prepare a clean warm, and inviting atmosphere for my hardworking husband to come home to. (yes I do it myself) Then I prepare a healthy lunch.  The rest of the day I get to relax until my husband comes home.

So you see I’m just an ordinary person with a normal life.  What makes me extraordinary is my relationship with God.  He’s the secret to my success!  As a Christian woman, wife and mother, I put my trust in Him and things have a way of working themselves out.  Keep believing!  Keep strengthening your soul with His word so that you may be able to withstand the various trials that come our way.  God never promised we would not have problems, he promised He’d be with us when we do.  When God is for you He’s more than the whole world against you!  Below are some uplifting scriptures about women to meditate on this summer.

Proverbs 14:1, “A wise woman builds her house but a foolish woman tears it down with her own hands.  A wise woman will keep watch over her house and seek to provide an atmosphere that others are drawn too in plain terms NO drama!

Proverbs 11:16, “A kind-hearted woman gains honor.” God wants you to be a woman who is pleasant to know!

Titus 2:5, “A woman of God is self-controlled and pure, busy at home, kind, and subject to their husbands.” She works at controlling her spirit, she takes care of the home, she’s a kind woman and she seeks her husband’s knowledge and advice.

Proverbs 21:19, “Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and nagging wife.” (Wow even God says STOP! nagging him).  Instead have a conversation with him being mindful of your tone and the timing of the conversation.

Ephesians 5:22, “Wives submit yourself to your own husbands as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church.”  (God is clear, the husband is the head! I love having a strong capable man!  Turns me on!)

1 Timothy 3:11, “In the same way women are to be worthy of respect.  Not malicious talkers, but temperate and trustworthy in everything.” He’s saying if you don’t have anything good to say don’t say anything!  The bible says we are to build up each other.  I don’t involve myself in gossip!  It’s a waste of my time and I’m not interested.  I’m more interested in what is happening in my own life than anything else.  Keep watch over your own house ladies!

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