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Souless Relationships

In order for there to be real love between two people, there has to be a spiritual connection. A physical relationship without the spiritual connection is like a body with no soul and as a result women are left feeling empty. A woman must first have a healthy respect for herself. Self respect is number one and valuing yourself enough to require that you you be treated with respect by a man. So how does a woman go about doing this?

4 Ways to communicate the self-respect you have for yourself
and that you require from a man

1. Self control Let the man pursue you. The woman that’s consistently calling, texting, all the time is his groupie and thus not interesting.

2. Be OK with being alone –  That doesn’t mean you give up on finding love. Make up your mind that I’d rather be alone than to be treated poorly or less than I deserve.  It takes the pressure off finding someone, you relax and let it happen naturally in God’s timing.  In the meantime work on being the best you can be and knowing that the right man will be lucky to have you.

3. Don’t appear desperate – Be willing to walk away if it’s not working for you, as opposed to holding on to a relationship that’s going nowhere or no where good or both.

4. Show him you value yourself by requiring he treat you with respect.  You show him that by not allowing yourself to be used like the others. As long as you’re leading with the physical you’ll not get beyond that place. Let Love In!

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Celebrating the Gift of Love on Valentine’s Day

God is Love!  We love because he first loved us. Celebrating the gift of love this Valentine’s Day.  If you are not in a relationship or married at this time, or even have a date for the big day, you can still be thankful for God’s love and that of family and friends.  How will you spend your Valentine’s Day this year?  Actually on big restaurant occasions like V- day I prefer a special evening at home. My husband’s a gentlemen who knows how to treat a lady, so that’s always a pleasure.  Actually we’re both romantics so I’m lucky in that respect.  Busy married couples use this time to reconnect, don’t forget to keep the main thing the main thing.  You don’t always have to be doing some big exciting thing all the time, many times keeping it simple can be more satisfying.  Such as time alone, a nice dinner, and the connection you feel spending time with someone special.  Having the right partner is half the battle.  Finding the right partner?  You know what they say, location is everything.  Love marriage and home ownership go hand in hand.  Find out the best U. S. cities for singles and married couples below.

The Language of Love

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Knowing your value as a Woman

A woman of High value knows who she is, and who’s she is.  Her confidence and contentment flows from the fact that she is loved by God and held in the highest esteem.  Proverbs 31:10 Her price is far above rubies.” Pray that God will strengthen you with his word. Did you know that reading scripture actually strengthens you. When we are strengthened on the inside circumstances on the outside don’t bother you as much. Strengthen yourself and see yourself the way God sees you. As a precious treasure and giver of life and nothing that the man can acquire can compare to you. Proverbs 3:15 “Nothing you desire can compare to her.” The man can have everything! But if he doesn’t have you he has nothing!

Rule #1 – All men are not worthy of receiving you!  Those that are must prove it!  Keep God first.

Rule #2 –  A woman of high value never chases. The thrill of the chase belongs to the hunter.  Let him work for it.  Hard to get is actually exciting to men, because now he has something to work on. He has to put his creativity to work. How can I impress this woman and show her I’m interested.  Let the courting begin

Rule #3 –  She does not need a man to complete her. She is happy on her own. She comes equipped with intelligence, gifts, talents, and a good heart. She’d like to share her life with the right man but knows he must be deserving of her.

Rule #4 –  Your worth as a woman is not tied to sex! She values her temple, and shows a man that what is different about her, is the fact that you will respect me.

Rule #5 –  No matter how much you desire a man, if his values do not align with yours, do not become unequally yoked. Never abandon your standards. You never stoop to his level, no, a high value woman challenges a man to come up to higher ground.

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Gracefully Single

God wants the best for You!  We are more connected at this point in time to the world at large than at any other point in history.  Seems like dating and finding a good Christian man would be easy right?  Not.  Instead it’s harder than ever to find someone decent and worth dating.  When you meet the man God has for you, you will know it.  It will be the man that values and respects you in every way.  You will know him because he will be vastly different from any other man you’ve met.  In your single season you are in complete control of your life and that’s powerful.  When you have a life partner you give up some of that control to share your life. The takeaway is to embrace the moment, be at peace knowing that the man God has for you will come into your life at the right time.  Live with expectancy, expecting  good  things to happen to you.

Flourish at your work.  A sense of accomplishment will make you feel good about yourself and give you something else to focus on.  It will also boost your confidence and radiate outward.  Men can tell when a woman is content and confident and this is when he wants to get your attention.

Be engaged in life, have as much fun as you can in your single season.  Family life is very rewarding, marriage and kids are serious business. It’s a stage in your life where you don’t go out as much or travel, hang out with your friends, as much at least not initially with newborns and toddlers.  But family is the priority and everything else is secondary so I say have all the fun you can as a single girl travel, expand your mind, who knows what like minded gentlemen you can meet along the way.

Be the most desirable you can be spiritually, mentally, physically.  Be a well rounded woman, who is well read and able to have interesting conversation.

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January Happy Birthdays!

Happy Birthday to Me! Author of SCW

Grandfather Thomas Newman

Aunt Carmen Lashley

Cousin Chris,and Uncle Charles Newman







Reflecting on the Goodness of God in the New Year!

Count Your Blessings!  Health, family, faith, career and good friends triumph over difficulties. The good Lord is on your side!  And with God all things are possible!  There’s been a strong feeling in my spirit to focus on the POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!!  We can all find something to complain about.  However as the body of Christ which is the church let’s commit together to focus on what’s good this year and give the rest to God in prayer!  I hope that your new year’s eve was a blessed one, you had fun, unwind from work and life stresses.  Hopefully you’ll be resting comfortably on this Holiday or doing whatever makes you happy.

New Year’s resolutions anyone?  Studies have shown that by the end of the first week of the new year, resolutions are out the window for most people. However if there are positive changes that you need to make for the betterment of your future commit to making those positive changes!  Our future is created by the choices we make today. Make better choices in 2020!  Remember that God is always moving Forward and so too should we.  He is always doing a new thing Isaiah 43:19. The power to change is in your hands!  If you’d like us to pray for you send a prayer request.

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Happy New Year ! Embracing the Newness of Life

It’s a blessing to be alive at this point in time in history! The year 2020 promises to be an amazing year.  If God has been good to you in spite of your troubles praise him right now!  It’s been an amazing year for my family, full of challenges and triumphs and God has brought us through.  I ‘m extremely humbled and grateful to God.  God never promised us that we won’t go through anything.  He promised he’d be with us when we go through it.  You’re on your way to your new normal.  Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen youI will help youI will uphold you with my righteous right.”  I like the New year’s holiday, who doesn’t love a brand new start?  You are a new creature in Christ!  Forgiven, loved, and under God’s protection.  2 Corinthians 5:17,  “old things are passed away; behold, all things are made new.”  New Living Translation

“Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.” Romans 6:6  Your old self is crucified with him .

What will you do differently this year?  What changes will you make for the better?  What will your new self do?  Your new self will make better choices this year!  Better Choices will produce a new outcome.  Keep pressing on sisters and brothers in Christ.  Don’t allow the enemy to corrupt the good that’s in you.

Philippians 3:12-14 King James Version (KJV)

12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.

13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are ahead,

14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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What will you do this new year’s eve?  Where will you go?  New York just unveiled the 20’s today that will adorn Times square New year’s eve.

  • Going out to see the fireworks display in your local area
  • Dinner with family or friends
  • Church
  • Concerts are a really popular choice for new year’s eve as a lot of artist tour during holidays


1. Plan accordingly.

If you’re going to a party or heading to a public event, make plans to arrive and leave with a group.  A lot can happen on New Year’s Eve, and you want to ensure you, your friends and family are safe. Be sure to share your plans for the night and communicate your whereabouts if plans change.

To this end, pack a charger for your phone — a portable battery one may be especially helpful if you can’t find an outlet.  Be aware of your surroundings; if you get separated from your group, you will want to know where you are, where you’re going and where you’re spending the night.

2. Mind your limits.

Alcohol is almost unavoidable on New Year’s Eve.  Even if you and your friends don’t partake, you’ll likely encounter intoxicated revelers over the course of your night.  Don’t drink too much too quickly.

3. Celebrate safely.

Champagne is a New Year’s Eve staple. But according to stats, champagne corks can reach speeds up to 50 miles per hour. (That’s enough to shatter glass.)  So don’t forget that corks should be popped away from guest or anything of value.

4.Never leave your drink unattended

While it’s important to have fun, keeping a level head and not getting injured or taken advantage of should be a primary consideration.

5 Avoid driving if possible.

Whether you’re a passenger or driver, the roads are particularly dangerous on New Year’s Eve. Help everyone stay safe by refusing to drink and drive, and don’t let anyone around you drive under the influence of alcohol or other intoxicating substances.

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Christmas Blessings, Celebrating Christ, the Good Shepard

Joy to the world!  Let earth receive her king!  Merry Christmas and happy holiday season to your family from the SCW family.  Focus your hearts on the true reason for the season which is Christ our savior.  Really meditate on all he’s brought you through this year with a grateful heart and a fixed mind to keep trusting God.  Proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the lord your God with all thine heart and lean not to your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him and he will direct your paths.”  Time to rejoice and celebrate with family and friends.  SCW has you covered for all your Christmas holiday needs, faith, food, entertaining and decorating.  The kids will be at the house and we’ll have a  very blessed dinner and time with them. They are big kids! Nice to see them all grown up and doing their own thing.I’m looking forward to an Amazing Christmas and New year! Don’t miss our last post of this year, New year’s post December 27th.

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  •  While you are being blessed, Do Not Forget those less fortunate ,like the hungry, homeless, lonely, elderly, and orphaned kids, they need our support.  So shout out today to all the  organizations serving Christmas dinner.  It can be as small as, dropping off a toy at a fire station, salvation army or any organization accepting toys, helping out at a shelter, inviting a lonely person to dinner.  Remember we are blessed to be a blessing.  Matthew 7:16 “You will know them by their fruits.”  To all our followers and viewers we appreciate you, and our hope is that you continue to grow in faith.  Be encouraged, cherish the good times, learn from the difficult times.  God is with you.  From my husband and I to all of your families.  We love you, have a happy holiday season!