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God wants the best for You!  We are more connected at this point in time to the world at large than at any other point in history.  Seems like dating and finding a good Christian man would be easy right?  Not.  Instead it’s harder than ever to find someone decent and worth dating.  When you meet the man God has for you, you will know it.  It will be the man that values and respects you in every way.  You will know him because he will be vastly different from any other man you’ve met.  In your single season you are in complete control of your life and that’s powerful.  When you have a life partner you give up some of that control to share your life. The takeaway is to embrace the moment, be at peace knowing that the man God has for you will come into your life at the right time.  Live with expectancy, expecting  good  things to happen to you.

Flourish at your work.  A sense of accomplishment will make you feel good about yourself and give you something else to focus on.  It will also boost your confidence and radiate outward.  Men can tell when a woman is content and confident and this is when he wants to get your attention.

Be engaged in life, have as much fun as you can in your single season.  Family life is very rewarding, marriage and kids are serious business. It’s a stage in your life where you don’t go out as much or travel, hang out with your friends, as much at least not initially with newborns and toddlers.  But family is the priority and everything else is secondary so I say have all the fun you can as a single girl travel, expand your mind, who knows what like minded gentlemen you can meet along the way.

Be the most desirable you can be spiritually, mentally, physically.  Be a well rounded woman, who is well read and able to have interesting conversation.

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January Happy Birthdays!

Happy Birthday to Me! Author of SCW

Grandfather Thomas Newman

Aunt Carmen Lashley

Cousin Chris,and Uncle Charles Newman

 

 

 

 

 

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Happy New Year ! Embracing the Newness of Life

It’s a blessing to be alive at this point in time in history! The year 2020 promises to be an amazing year.  If God has been good to you in spite of your troubles praise him right now!  It’s been an amazing year for my family, full of challenges and triumphs and God has brought us through.  I ‘m extremely humbled and grateful to God.  God never promised us that we won’t go through anything.  He promised he’d be with us when we go through it.  You’re on your way to your new normal.  Isaiah 41:10 “Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen youI will help youI will uphold you with my righteous right.”  I like the New year’s holiday, who doesn’t love a brand new start?  You are a new creature in Christ!  Forgiven, loved, and under God’s protection.  2 Corinthians 5:17,  “old things are passed away; behold, all things are made new.”  New Living Translation

“Throw off your old sinful nature and your former way of life, which is corrupted by lust and deception.” Romans 6:6  Your old self is crucified with him .

What will you do differently this year?  What changes will you make for the better?  What will your new self do?  Your new self will make better choices this year!  Better Choices will produce a new outcome.  Keep pressing on sisters and brothers in Christ.  Don’t allow the enemy to corrupt the good that’s in you.

Philippians 3:12-14 King James Version (KJV)

12 Not as though I had already attained, either were already perfect: but I follow after, if that I may apprehend that for which also I am apprehended of Christ Jesus.

13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are ahead,

14 I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

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What will you do this new year’s eve?  Where will you go?  New York just unveiled the 20’s today that will adorn Times square New year’s eve.

  • Going out to see the fireworks display in your local area
  • Dinner with family or friends
  • Church
  • Concerts are a really popular choice for new year’s eve as a lot of artist tour during holidays

 

1. Plan accordingly.

If you’re going to a party or heading to a public event, make plans to arrive and leave with a group.  A lot can happen on New Year’s Eve, and you want to ensure you, your friends and family are safe. Be sure to share your plans for the night and communicate your whereabouts if plans change.

To this end, pack a charger for your phone — a portable battery one may be especially helpful if you can’t find an outlet.  Be aware of your surroundings; if you get separated from your group, you will want to know where you are, where you’re going and where you’re spending the night.

2. Mind your limits.

Alcohol is almost unavoidable on New Year’s Eve.  Even if you and your friends don’t partake, you’ll likely encounter intoxicated revelers over the course of your night.  Don’t drink too much too quickly.

3. Celebrate safely.

Champagne is a New Year’s Eve staple. But according to stats, champagne corks can reach speeds up to 50 miles per hour. (That’s enough to shatter glass.)  So don’t forget that corks should be popped away from guest or anything of value.

4.Never leave your drink unattended

While it’s important to have fun, keeping a level head and not getting injured or taken advantage of should be a primary consideration.

5 Avoid driving if possible.

Whether you’re a passenger or driver, the roads are particularly dangerous on New Year’s Eve. Help everyone stay safe by refusing to drink and drive, and don’t let anyone around you drive under the influence of alcohol or other intoxicating substances.

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A New Season of Blessings

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4th of July Celebration

Psalm 33:12, Blessed is the nation whose God is the lord.  Happy Birthday America!!!  Fun, food, friends, family, and fireworks!  The country’s celebration, of freedom and independence and another opportunity to thank God for our blessings.  It’s great to look forward to future blessings but it’s awesome to appreciate what we have right now at this moment in time.  Don’t let those special moments pass by without acknowledging all that the Lord has done and is doing for us.  We honor all those who serve!  Everyone have a safe and blessed holiday.

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Waiting For Sex until Marriage and the Benefits to Women

Smart Christian Women know that they are valuable!  A woman conveys her worth to a man when she makes him wait.  Einstein said insanity is doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.  How many times have you given your heart and body to a man only to have him ghost you?  The woman is left devastated and broken.  Or worse you spend years with a man, living with him giving him all the benefits of marriage, only to have it end.  Eventually she heals, moves on to another man and repeats the same scenario.

Only because she mistakenly believes that that’s the way to get a man to stay.  The devil is a liar!  Don’t let him fool you!  You know for yourself that doesn’t work because you’ve tested it.  Like a loving father God wants to protect his daughters from from guys like the last guy who broke your heart.

He has given you something sacred, special, life giving, to be shared with your husband in the bonds of matrimony.  He wants you to have the security and stability you crave!  It’s time for women to have more satisfying relationships!

But you must begin to think differently and handle men differently!  The man that’s so-called scared off by you waiting until marriage is NOT the guy for you anyway!  He’s been sent by the enemy to seduce and distract you from getting the real life that God has for you.

But I know you’re smarter than that and that’s why the bible says “Wisdom is better than silver and Gold!”  You know what a man likes almost as much as SEX?  A Challenge!!!!  They are competition driven. Sports, games, business, and yes women.  The problem is there’s not much challenge left with women today.

Sex is Easy! There has to be something that distinguishes you from OTHER women!  And if he wants you he will rise to the challenge.  When my husband and I met and started dating he wanted to wait for marriage, it was his idea.  He’s a Christian man with Christian values, and I really admired that.

That’s how I knew he was the one.  He wanted me to know he was the real deal.  It was an awesome courtship and the best experience getting to know each other, knowing where the relationship was headed.  It was wonderful to know I was with the man God had for me!

When a man is willing to wait and honor the woman and honor the relationship, it is a gift from God!  Granted men like that are rare but that doesn’t mean you stop valuing yourself or lower your standards.  The right man will meet you on your level.

Sex inside marriage is the most amazing sexual experience of my entire Life!!  I thought it was just me having unbelievable sex.  It turns out there are research studies like the report from the “Journal Of Family Psychology” that says “those who waited for marriage were happier with the quality of sex in their relationship.”  Remember, “Love is Patient, Love is kind it does not insist on it’s own way” 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8.

8 Benefits of delaying sex until marriage for the Woman

  • It keeps God at the center of your relationship. You honor God with your relationship and He in turn blesses you.
  • You know you’re with the man God has for you
  • You can experience true love, security and stability, within the bonds of matrimony
  • Experience heightened pleasure and sexual freedom
  • You Have a solid foundation from which to build on
  • You guard your heart and emotions from men and stop suffering heartbreak
  • You maintain your dignity and respect for your body
  • You experience The Ultimate sexual experience in love

Smart Tip Of the Day: You will never be truly satisfied in the lusts of the flesh, because it’s not God’s way.  Your Best sexual experience, ultimate expression of love, and most satisfying relationship is waiting for you inside marriage!

God’s Women deserve the Best and women all over the world are learning that God’s way is the best Way!  My prayer for SCW women is that all of you will experience the best God has for you in every aspect of your life, love, relationships, and sexual expression.  Amen.

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A Merry Heart , and 4 Ways to Reduce Stress this Season

  1. Take Joy in the season and meditate on the goodness of the Lord.

  2. Set a Budget

  3. Spend time with family and friends

  4. Avoid going to endless stores in the holiday frenzy.  Shop online and have it delivered right to your door.  If you prefer going out preplan your trip, combine it with running errands and make a day of it.  Maximize your time and get a lot done in one day, that way you avoid going to endless stores.

Editors note: Happy Holiday season to our our followers and readers around the world From Southern California.

Shout out to the East Coast New York City Rockefeller Center

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Remembering an Angel This Holiday Season: Pamela Newman, August 31, 1956-December 2, 2005, We Love you Mom!

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How to stop Technology from Ruining Communication in your Relationships

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All of America is online!  In fact the whole world is online.  All you need is a phone with internet capabilities, a smartphone and your in.  Facebook, Instagram,Twitter.  You can record your whole life and post it for all the world to see.  Every thought you think be it positive or negative just click and send. Although the internet can fill our need for instantaneous gratification it has forever changed relationships and the way we communicate.  My husband and I were recently out on date night in L.A.  We had dinner at a restaurant just a couple of blocks from Venice Beach.  The plan was after dinner we’d leave the car, walk to the beach and watch the sunset.

We went to our car to get our beach blankets.  Being that this is Venice Beach, there’s no shortage of indoor, outdoor restaurants and bars there couples everywhere and they all come to watch the sunset.  One couple happened to catch our attention. They were walking side by side headed toward the beach. She was looking down at her phone and he was looking down at his.  Sad.  You may have seen couples like this, or worse a couple is out at dinner sitting at the table ignoring each other both on their phones. Really?  Whatever happened to uninterrupted quality time?  I guess it’s the latest casualty that’s fallen by the wayside in the age of advanced technology.  The post today talks about ways in which technology may be ruining your relationships and how to stop it!

5 ways technology is ruining your relationships and how to stop it

  • Track your time online and set boundaries with technology.  Exactly how many hours are you spending online?  Think about how you can restructure your time to do other things you like to do.
  • Substitute online time for healthier habits. Like spending times with friends or family.
  • Get connected in real life! Establish healthy fulfilling relationships.
  • Be present in the moment with a loved one. Virtual connections online can’t replace physical interaction.  Constantly being online interrupts quality time together that can’t be replaced.
  • Perhaps you should use some of that free time to spend time with God in prayer.  Maybe you have an issue or issues in your life that you need God to fix or help you with, or you just need to thank Him for how good He’s been.  I love the way Joyce Meyer puts it, “Don’t go to the phone, go to the throne!”

  • Smart tip of the day:  If you find yourself being less and less present in relationships with family and friends and spend endless hours glued to your phone, or you feel as though you can’t go a day without it, it could be a sign you need to unplug.  You may want to reset, create clear boundaries with technology to put more effort into what’s really important.  Technology can become idol worship!  Jonah 2:8 “those who cling to worthless idols turn away from God’s love for them.”

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